I didn't time this Virtual Lushary to coincide with St. Patrick's Day (which is generally celebrated in America with a lot of green beer) but since we're here, can we turn to one of my favourite Irish traditions? The wake.
Apologies; I know that was sort of a buzz kill.
It's not that Jewish funerals are so different--we use Shiva to reminiscence about the person. But today is St. Patrick's Day--not Pesach--so we're going to go with the Irish tradition of toasting the person after their death, remembering every good point about them.
I hate the idea of people saving their best words for when the person can't hear them.
I know it is helpful for the mourners--after all, funerals are for those left behind, not those already dead. But I read something this week that really struck me. I was reading about the Hudson River plane crash in People (and I swear that I read more magazines than just People; it's just that I find so much to quote in there) and it said, "she's heard from friends who have been out of touch for 20 years. 'It's as if I went to my own funeral and didn't have to die to go,' she said. 'There's been such an outpouring of love'."
No one should have to die to go to their own funeral. I can't tell you how good it feels when someone writes a kind comment or simply tells me how LFCA has positively affected their day. You carry those words with you all day.
Therefore, I propose today, in addition to catching up everyone on your life, you take a moment to write something kind about another blogger. Why another blogger? Because they're most likely to read it here vs. your Great Aunt Mildred who probably isn't skulking around on blogs. And the point is to make sure that they know your words. I don't want to call this a massive funeral for the non-dead because that just feels...wrong. But I think you all understand the sentiment.
Let the world know--very publicly--how much you appreciate the other person. Because that is part of the wake too--that the words are spoken in front of others. Please link to the other blogger in your comment or give the title of the blog so people can find them via the blogroll. And to make this clear, let's all start with our compliment and then finish the comment with our own news. You may leave as many compliments to others as you wish. The more, obviously, the merrier.
Because isn't there some saying that on St. Patrick's Day, we're all Irish?
As always, it has been about a month since we met, bitched, cried, comforted, and caught up each other on our cycles and lives. Pull up a seat and I'll pour you a drink. Let everyone know what is happening in your life and a compliment for another blogger. The good, the bad, the ugly. My only request is that if a story catches your eye, you follow it back to the person's blog and start reading their posts. Give some love, give some support, or laugh with someone until your drink comes out of your nose.
I have a ton of assvice in my back pocket and as a virtual bartender, I will give it to you unless you specifically tell me that this is simply a vent and you do not want to receive anything more than a hug.
So if you have been a lurker for a while (or if this is your first open bar as someone who found this space through IComLeavWe), sit down and tell us about yourself. Remember to provide a link or a way for people to continue reading your story (or if you don't have a blog--gasp!--you can always leave an email address if you're looking for advice or support. If not, people can leave messages for that person here in the comments section too). If you're a regular at the bar, I'll get out your engraved martini glass while you make yourself comfortable. And anyone new, welcome. I'm glad you found this virtual bar.
For those who have no clue what I'm talking about when I say that the bar is open, click here to catch up and then jump into the conversation back on this current post.
So have an imaginary cocktail and tell us what is up with your life.