Listen, I'm just going to lay it out there. It seems like it's a shitty time for everyone. I know I'm not the only person out there who has been engaging in unconscious teeth grinding because I'm reading it across the blogosphere. Is it the change in season? The wave of losses that are rocking our community? The general depression that seems to be sweeping across the world when one considers affairs of state?
I felt so much better after I went out last night. I met up with Sell Crazy Someplace Else, Barren is the New Black, and Antigone Lost. We drank coffee and ate cookies and coveted shoes and talked about crickets for so long that I cringed the entire walk up to my house. Afterwards, we met up with a bunch of other bloggers including Uppercase Woman. Hugging Cecily is like drawing from a well. Her daughter is so lucky to have her as a mother. Do you know what I mean? I just think about how hard it is to be a little girl these days and how Tori is going to get these amazing hugs from her mother. She is so grounding.
And then I was in the shower this morning (if you haven't noticed from past posts, I do all of my thinking in the shower and car and absolutely no thinking at other times of day) and I was thinking about how I just want to join one of those group hugging parties but I don't really want strangers to touch me and I don't really want to leave my house which...you know...makes it difficult to attend a party.
What I wanted was a virtual cuddle party. One that did not involve a random man groping me under the guise that we were cuddling or make me hold hands with someone who was very very very sweaty. But what would this look like online? A bunch of random comments that read like phone sex?: "I'm touching your arm right now."
That wouldn't make me feel good.
But what if people just left one nice thought about you or your blog? As in "I really like you header" or "You have great hair!" or "that last post you wrote was fantastic."
Wouldn't that make you feel good?
So on my way to BlogHer DC where I am speaking on a panel about how we can use online resources to support one another, I am declaring this Random Reassurance Week.
Oh, come on now, I'm just saying what we're all thinking. We all want a virtual hug. These last few weeks have sucked and we all just want someone putting their virtual arms around us and grounding us. Perhaps you're embarrassed to admit it, but I'm not. You can only ensure that you get what you need by asking so...I'm asking.
This is sort of a delurking/kindness week in one. If you've never commented on the person's blog before (or rarely do), delurk and let them know that they're appreciated. After all, what sort of message does a person receive if you read and run? If you do comment regularly or semi-regularly on the person's blog, tell them one nice thing such as why you keep coming back to read their blog, what you like best about them, or what colour crayon they would be if they were a crayon.
Don't feel as if you need to squeeze all of your kindness into today. Spread it out over the week. And since this doesn't truly have a start date or end date, feel free to declare your own week on your own blog. Call it Random Reassurance Week and I'll know exactly what you need from me as I read the post.
Just when you thought I could not get any more touchy-feely, I pull this out of my ass...
But, then again, you knew about my kumbaya-ness.