Where has all the banter gone? All the warm hugs or agreement or disagreement or assvice or name-calling? The acknowledgment that a warm-blooded person has taken in your words with their eyes and processed them inside their brain? I just read this fantastic, emotional post about a last loss on Tina's blog and there were only three comments (okay, by the time I post this, there may be more, but if there isn't, go over there and comment!). Three comments! There had to be more than three readers. And how can you read something that emotional and not reach out with a little virtual hug?
And I'm admonishing myself too! I'm guilty of reading and fleeing. Of laughing and then clicking the mouse to go onto the next blog without telling the writer that I was snickering over her entry. Or bawling my eyes out, but not letting the writer know how much their words affected me. We think that it's not important to leave a comment, but like the subtitle of the emoblopedia suggests, blogging is interactive. Half of the job is completed by the writer and the other half is completed by the reader.
I am declaring this upcoming week Comments Week. From today until next Friday, send out the love. Read fewer blogs if you have to but comment more. Let people know that you're reading them. It can even be a Dick Cheney-like flat response of "I am reading you. I enjoyed this. Grrrrrr." But at least acknowledge that you read the words and they went through you--even if they were sort of the emotional equivalent to Olestra.
It's spring. It's a time for love (is it a time for love? It just feels like spring could be a time for love). Send some love. Send a little hug. That could be your whole comment: "hug!" Agree with someone. Or disagree respectfully with someone. Or send a little "is everything okay" note to a blogger like Smarshy who hasn't written in weeks and we're supposed to believe that he's "busy" with this "class" when we all know that he's watching Teletubbies on the sly. And placing the blame on the Buggins.
Oh...and look...here are some blogs where you can send the love!
On the topic of emotional posts about loss, Annie at Pink Line Chaser is currently going through a loss right now. She could use a virtual hug. At the same time, read her post this week, "Figures." She asks: "You know those moods where you just want to pick a fight with someone just to fight? Or you are frozen into inaction by malaise or apathy? Yeah. I've got both going on. Those feelings are so familiar--you can't help but nod your head in agreement.
Avonlea has this achingly beautiful post about being in a state of pre-spring--of being simply the leaves with the bulb still underground waiting to emerge. My favourite part of the post is this gorgeous thought: "The problem I have - the root of it - is staying. Staying with my feelings, staying in the moment. Feeling. Being. Procrastination helps me avoid all of that. But I have finally gotten to the point where the pressure and anxiety of avoiding are too high and I must confront it all and deal with it. So I've begun pushing through that dirt that's piled up high on my head. I'm making in roads, but I'm not there yet." Isn't that amazing? Well, don't just sit there nodding your head; go tell her (by fuck, I'm demanding today)!
Sara at Of Course You'll Get Pregnant has a post called "Owwww, My Nipples" this week. And if that's not enough to get you to go over there in nipple empathy, this line should send you clicking: "I've already POAS (positive - so the trigger shot did make its way into my system) and put it under my pillow for luck. How ridiculous is that?" I don't know why; I just love the idea of sleeping with a pee stick under the pillow. Now I'm sure Josh would put down his foot at bringing urine into the bed (even if the stick is capped), but if I tucked it between the bed springs and the mattress and he didn't know?...
Watson of My Dear Watson has an amusing/informative 3 part video about mixing and preparing meds (though she stops short at showing you the injection). If you're about to start injections, it might be helpful to see and if you're already a seasoned pro, you might still want to watch for advice on what to do with all those vial tops.
Dianne at Flutter of Hope has a great post that really put into words a relationship that I have (and I'm sure that most people have someone like this in their lives). You could be on the same side of the field, working together and empathizing together, but instead you're separate in your emotions over infertility. She writes: "What hurts, is that she can’t recognize that if she is in pain, I must also be in pain. Instead of being on our own corners of pain, we could be bonding over it. We could be commiserating over the feelings of being left behind, our longing for a wanted child which may never come, and our sadness which is my infertility."
Liz, who wrote the Infertility Survival Handbook as well as the adoption book that we read for the first book tour has started her own blog! Read along and go welcome her into the blogosphere as she considers whether or not to return to the clinic to try treatments again.
Lastly, Kim at There's Weenie Juice on My Cookie (how can that not pique your interest?) has a post this week that is just plain fun. Head on over and read about the amazing feats of werewolf sperm.
So go comment this week. Keep track of how many comments you write. Congratulate yourself at the end of the week for making however many bloggers feel better (um...the point is to make them feel better--so no mean comments allowed) by letting them know that their words have made a difference in your life.
Oh...and while you're out there commenting, tell people when you think a post should go into the emoblopedia. Just cut-and-paste: "hey, this would be great for the emoblopedia! Send a link to this post to firstname.lastname@example.org and Melissa will add it. Just let her know which category--or start a new one."
Or something like that...