When life gives you a crate of lemons, most people would make lemonade. But I used them to make the world's worst and most complicated lemon cookies.
Thanks a lot, Rachael Ray. They will be going into the garbage soon enough--all eight dozen of them.
But the baking process--of which there was over 45 minutes of just prep time to zest all of those lemons and juice them--gave me time to think of a new what if.
What if a close friend or family member couldn't withhold judgement on your infertility/pregnancy loss decisions (for example, they were wholly against IVF and you chose to do IVF or they thought you needed to wait after a loss and you wanted to try again or they thought you should keep trying IVF with your eggs and you wanted to use donor eggs)? What would you want them to say in order to protect your relationship while still continuing with your decisions. Would you rather have them be honest, or would you rather have them slip off the face of the earth for a bit rather than tell you the truth?
Subsequently, is there any way that a person could tell you that they couldn't support you during infertility and didn't want to hear the details of your journey that would still keep your relationship in tact?