Hope everyone who celebrates Christmas had a wonderful holiday. To be honest, I'm dreading getting in the car in a few minutes and hearing the normal easy-listening music on our Christmas station. It's as if my best friend has split town in the middle of the night, barely even mentioning that she was leaving.
But a question for you from my notebook that Teamwinks actually addressed this week too:
Here's karma coming back to bite me in the ass (karma in the misused western sense of the word and not in the actual, Hindu sense of the word): In an already iffy relationship, the straw that broke the camel's back was the chance of infertility. A month or two after he told me, I broke up with the boy because he casually mentioned that his doctor once told him that he may have difficulty conceiving since he only had one testicle. I knew from a month or two into the relationship that he was never going to become my husband due to a complete lack of chemistry, but hearing that he might impact my ability to easily have a child hastened the break-up.
Well, you get what you deserve, perhaps.
Since I am the infertile one in my marriage.
And based on something I just read in a book about divorce rates and infertility, would you continue dating someone you intended to marry if you knew that they were infertile? At what point would you want to be told about the person's infertility? Early on (or could that backfire if the person wasn't yet committed and that clouded their judgment)? Later (or could that open hurt because the other person felt like it should have been on the table earlier, even if it wasn't going to affect how the person felt)? Should it come up when you begin speaking about having children? And would it be somewhat easier emotionally to jump into treatments from point one (as Lance Armstrong's exwife did--she knew she would be doing IVF before they ever tried to conceive) or is it a non-issue: even if you know beforehand, it's still the same level of emotional pain expended during treatments?
All things to consider if Josh were ever to leave me...
Since it would be me doing the telling this time.
Western-karma really bites.