From what you've said so far, there are multiple reasons for being out:
(1) gain emotional support
(2) need to vent
(3) gain important information (I know people have come out to me not because they want my support, but because they want my information)
(4) not ashamed of the situation
(5) feel guilt over not being fertile and want people to know that the lack of children is not for lack of trying
(6) it's a HUGE part of your life and it's impossible to hide it
(7) to gain other support (for example, if we want to do IVF, realistically, I would need to tell my mother because I would be asking her to babysit my current children and I would need help if I was feeling like crap)
(8) put a quick end to invasive questions about baby-making
(9) infertility is part of who I am (Lunarmagic said this well)
(10) to pass on information to others (eg. Tina's comment about how being out has helped others come out)
And there are multiple reasons for being in:
(1) want privacy
(2) don't want assvice (I loved Carlynn's thoughts about being lightyears away from the advice the average person could give)
(3) don't want the whole family discussing you
(4) there is no reason the world should know about your cervical mucous
(5) it's no one's business except your own
(6) it could have a negative impact on other facets of your life (such as work)
And both being in or out come with their own bag of ass (I'm sorry, but I can't stop using this Smarshyism). If you're in, the person doesn't know to be supportive and the stupid comments fly (actually, the stupid comments fly either way). If you're out, you may or may not get the support you need. What are the other drawbacks to being in or out?
But this list is just what I've come up with off the top of my head as well as comments on past blog entries. Are there other reasons for being in or out that I left off my list?
Lastly, I love Murray's comment about not having expectations (this goes back to my question at the beginning of the week about when you share and receive no support in return). I had a boyfriend once who used this idea as his mantra. And I think it's nice (well, there's a wishy-washy word if I ever heard one), but not very realistic. Because I don't know anyone who lives without expectations. Truly without expectations. And once one starts down this road to live without expectations, it's sort of like that Friends episode where Phoebe attempts to do good deeds without receiving anything in return. It sort of becomes impossible except for a sliver of possible actions. So not a way to lead an entire life, but a way to deal with a small scattering of certain situations.
But wouldn't it be so nice if we never felt let down?
And wouldn't it be nice if we could breeze through the entire two week wait without expectations? Eh, Serenity? Hang in there, sweetie.