It seems eerie now, in retrospect, that I wrote about emotional fraud on the Internet about one month ago in response to Niobe's earlier post on the same topic. Who was to know that one month later, almost to the day, I would receive an email from a concerned blogger asking if I had heard about this website disproving the existence of Little April Rose. She didn't know what to think, unable to wrap her mind around the idea that someone would use the death of a child to garner attention.
Beccah Beushausen said that she started the blog to process a prior loss and "to express her strong anti-abortion views." And I wonder, in a week where we are still reeling from the death of Dr. Tiller, when murder, lying, and emotional manipulation became a proper way to spread a message.
I didn't know the site beyond the badges I've seen on people's sidebars and a blurb someone placed back in April in the LFCA. Anti-abortion bloggers and I don't really mix. But it still makes me feel ill even if I hadn't been taken for a ride. My heart goes to the very real people, like my friend, Kathy, who have lived through a very real loss especially those who knew before the birth that their child was gravely ill and you ache for what they must be thinking this moment.
Many people have come out with statements about Rebeccah Beushausen, both condemning her for her actions and offering sympathy in the face of someone who is unwell. But my statements are for the men and women who have lived through the loss of a child. My heart is with them tonight. For the men and women who have held their child, either knowing prior to the birth or afterward that they would have to say goodbye. For everyone who appears in the loss room, for all the people I inadvertently missed.
My advice, for anyone who is upset by the April Rose manipulation, visit one of the blogs in the loss room--the stillbirth/neonatal death/infant death blogs are towards the bottom--and leave them kind words of support. You can either curse the darkness brought on by Beccah Beushausen or you can light your way out of it by embracing the members of community who are hurting right now from this.