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Saturday, April 25, 2009

The 49th Circle Time: The Show and Tell Weekly Thread

Show and Tell is wasted on elementary schoolers. Join several dozen bloggers weekly to show off an item, tell a story, and get the attention of the class. In other words, this is Show and Tell 2.0. Everyone is welcome to join, even if you have never posted before and just found out about Show and Tell for the first time today. So yank out a photo of the worst bridesmaid's dress you ever wore and tell us the story; show off the homemade soup you cooked last night; or tell us all about the scarf you made for your first knitting project. Details on how to participate are located at the bottom of this post.

Let's begin.

During Pesach, before she went home, Josh's grandmother pulled me aside to give me her crystal cake plate. She recently moved from her apartment to a senior community and didn't have space for everything and she told me that she wanted me to have this, the reason being that cake plays a large role in our relationship.

I am not going to be able to adequately put into words how much this meant to me. I am used to being adored by my own grandmother who has known me since birth. It is quite another thing to be loved by Josh's grandmother, who notices the small things about me (my love of baking cakes) and presents a gift that speaks volumes. She knows how much family means to me--I have certainly pestered her enough times to recount stories for me from Josh's family so I can writes them down for the twins--and this cake plate brings with it history. A cake plate is the perfect fit--I am not a jewelry person or a clothing person. I am an old-pictures-or-serving-pieces person.

And beyond that, when she introduces us to strangers, she refers to both of us as her grandchildren. Only if the person questions everyone's relationship does she clarify and state that Josh is her grandson and I am his wife. But until pressed, we are all her grandchildren--those that she has known since childhood and those that have married into the family--and though I started this post by calling her Josh's grandmother, she is simply called Grandma by all of us as well, never differentiating which great-grandmother is from my family and which one comes from Josh's side.

Here is one of those places where words fail--it means more than I can express that she has taken me as a granddaughter rather than a woman who has married her grandson. It is a small distinction, but like the gift, it speaks volumes.

When she gave me the cake plate, she told me that she wanted me to have something to remember her by which made me profoundly sad to consider that future. It is hard to live in the moment with a mind that can comprehend the future--by which we all have this problem. And I am just trying to enjoy today, which includes both the cake I baked yesterday and Grandma, visiting her at her new senior community in Pennsylvania.



What are you showing today?

Click here or scroll down to the bottom of this post if this is your first time joining along (hint: link to the permalink for the post, not the main url for your blog and use your blog's name, not your name). The list is open from now until late Tuesday night and a new one is posted every week.

Other People Standing at the Head of the Class:

1. Building Heavenly Bridges
2. Bear and Comedian
3. Lori in Denver
4. Infertililty Rocks!
5. Life Induces Thoughts, mostly random
6. Candice
7. Wise Guy
8. Dragondreamer's Lair
9. Infertility Podcast & Blog
10. Mrs Spock
11. Hobbit- ish Thoughts and Ramblings
12. Destined to be an old woman with no regrets
13. Henry Street
14. Delenn
15. The Infertile Sushi- loving Princess
16. Fractured Rainbows
17. In Due Time
18. I Want To Be A Mommy
19. Conceive This!
20. VA Blondie
21. Busted
22. Johnson's Have Angel Wings
23. Alana- isms
24. Cyster A.C. T.
25. beebles @ Blue Gingham Jumpers
26. luna
27. Baby Smiling In Back Seat
28. Production, Not Reproduction
29. Potty Mouth Mommy
30. Mr. Shelby
31. Fertility Wishes and BFP Dreams
32. Stacie (Heeeeere Storkey)
33. MTHFR and Me
34. Meepit




Want to bring something to Show and Tell?
  • If you would like to join circle time and show something to the class, simply post each Saturday night (or earlier in the week or on Monday if you can't do the weekend), hopefully including a picture if possible, and telling us about your item. It can be anything--a photo from a trip, a picture of the dress you bought this week, a random image from an old yearbook showing a person you miss. It doesn't need to contain a picture if you can't get a picture--you can simply tell a story about a single item. The list opens every Saturday night and closes on Tuesday night.
  • You must mention Show and Tell and include a link back to this post in your post so people can find the rest of the class. This spreads new readership around through the list. This is now required.
  • Label your post "Show and Tell" each week and then come back here and add the permalink for the post via the Mr. Linky feature (not your blog's main url--use the permalink for your specific Show and Tell post).
  • Oh, and then the point is that you click through all of your classmates and see what they are showing this week. And everyone loves a good "ooooh" and "aaaah" and to be queen (or king) of the playground for five minutes so leave them a comment if you can.
  • Did you post a link and now it's missing?: I reserve the right to delete any links that are not leading to a Show and Tell post or are the blogging equivalent of a spitball.

41 comments:

Lori said...

Your grandmother (I mean to say it this way) sounds as sweet as your cake looks.

What a treasure that she classifies "family" as affection rather than just by blood.

Cara said...

What a lovely sentiment! I had a boyfriend who's grandma treated me that way. We all called her "gram". It was so hard to say goodbye to him, knowing it meant saying goodbye to her.

"I am not a jewelry person or a clothing person. I am an old-pictures-or-serving-pieces person."

Me too...it is a great way to live.

jill said...

Beautiful plate, wonderful gift, and awesome relationships. Family is so important :)

Beautiful Mess said...

How beautiful! Both the relationship between you and your grandmother and the cake plate. I love it! Thank you for sharing it.

infertilityrocks said...

What a wonderful gesture for her to do. My grandmother (mine, not hubby's) gave me a silver plate just a few weeks before she died. I will cherish it for always.

I hope she is around for a long time still for you, Josh and the twins to enjoy.

Jennifer said...

That is super and she is awesome sweet :) Great show and tell :)

WiseGuy said...

How very sweet of your grandmother...How close you people are is obvious by the face that she admits you both as her grandchildren and not as grandson and wife...it shows the bonding between you....What cake is that which is resting on the plate?

Candice said...

What a beautiful gift and your grandma sounds just as beautiful.

That cake looks delicious!

Fertilized said...

What a beautiful Soul. This world needs more of this. Moved me to tears.

Jen said...

Aw, how beautiful. I've put in a request for my grandmother's cookbook. But I don't think my mother is ready to give it up yet.

MrsSpock said...

A sentiment even lovelier than the gift itself!

itsazooaroundhere said...

Very beautiful! Those are the kinds of gifts that mean the most.

Lollipop Goldstein said...

Chocolate cake with a whipped chocolate icing. The internal layers were iced by the ChickieNob and Wolvog. I did the outside.

The cake somewhat melted in the car (it was a 2 1/2 hour drive), especially since we had a 3 hour detour because I developed a UTI this morning. BUT even that did not deter us from visiting her and dropping off said cake.

We did also manage to find the worst restaurant in the world. The meal ended up being fodder for the 2 1/2 hour drive back home. We had to talk about every horrific morsel.

battynurse said...

That is a beautiful cake plate and what a wonderful gift. She sounds like an amazing woman too.

Kristin said...

What a beautiful family you have. Its a treasure to know that she knows you so well.

My word verification is only one letter away from saying bequest.

Jess said...

What a pretty cake plate!! I love it when we get things from family memebers, and I love it more when they gift purposely...either while still alive, or with notes later. My great aunt has done this with her tea cups and my grandma has done some of it as well. It means so much to know it was FOR YOU from them, though of course things you get after a loved one dies are special, too, even if you just are chosing a favorite.

Isn't it amazing when families mesh so well?

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The Steadfast Warrior said...

How wonderful to have that kind of relationship with her. I have only one grandparent left and it makes me sad to consider the future too. I too love old serving pieces. What a beautiful cake plateI Sure to play host to many wonderful baked creations of yours I can tell.

Malky B. said...

How touching - I'm sure she enjoyed the cake you brought her.

luna said...

this just might be one of the best show and tells ever. just lovely. the perfect gift! enjoy serving up your love with it.

WiseGuy said...

Just read your comment!

Mmmm...chocolate..that makes me drool! Yeah, worst restaurant ever?

Maybe their failings could become blog post material?


*ICLW*

Betty M said...

The best kind of gift - one that means so much more than the object itself Lucky you to have such a lovely relative.

Clare said...

Yay for Grandmothers! Sadly both of mine have passed away but their presence and wisdom is everlasting. I hope I can one day be that silver-haired lady who passes on wisdom and important keepsakes, like cake plates!

Vee said...

What a gorgeous cake plate. That is just so special.

My Reality said...

Grandma rocks. The cake plate couldn't have gone to a better person.

Amanda said...

Oh, that was so sweet of her, and what a beautiful plate.

Your post reminded me of my husband's grandma. I will always remember how incredibly happy she was the day we told her we were getting married. No one was as happy or excited for us as that woman was. It is so wonderful to feel fully loved by someone that doesn't have to love you like that.

becomingwhole said...

Wow, what a gift. I love this story you told us. Thank you for this post.

'Murgdan' said...

Sometimes it's the little gifts that mean so much. It's beautiful!

Brenna said...

What an absolutely beautiful cake plate--and how precious that it came from Josh's mom, who seems to have noticed so many of the things that make you, you. I love it that she introduces you as her granchildren. What a sweet and special family you have.

K said...

Grandma sounds like a wonderful lady, and the plate is beautiful.

A Mom in Jacksonville, FL said...

What a beautiful cake plate. And how super that "your" grandmother is such a caring and wonderful person! :)

Billy said...

Wow! What an incredible woman!

luna said...

coming back with one to share. better late than never!

Cassandra said...

I'm a serving pieces and old pictures person too -- but when offered jewelry (which has happened with my grandmother and my husband's), I do accept.

Coffeegrl said...

I love this. I love grandma. I love the cake plate. I love the story. All of our grandparents (mine and my husband's are now gone) and it saddens me. I have some wonderful treasures from my grandfather though and my husband has a few special things from his two grandmothers and it's those special gifts that make us smile as we think of them.

cysteract said...

what a meaningful and wonderful gift.

you are lucky to have such a great relationship with a very special lady :-)

Anne said...

Melissa-

Congrats on the forthcoming book. I have written you a thanks on my blog to say that "If infertility is one of the world's rockiest emotional coastlines, Melissa has been a lighthouse for many of us." Cheers!

Mr. Shelby said...

What a great thing to share with us. Thank you!

Your grandmother sounds like a fantastic person.

Mr. Shelby

mrsfinn said...

The plate is beautiful, and from the sounds of it, Grandma is too.

What a lovely gesture, you are so very fortunate to have her!!

JamieD said...

What a beautiful gift and in so many ways.

Mary said...

Such a beautiful plate. The cake looks awesome too.