I thought this article in the New York Times Magazine was brilliant. Peggy Orenstein, who also wrote Waiting for Daisy about her struggle with infertility and recurrent loss, asks an excellent question: "Better safe than sorry, I say. But safe from what?"
I know it wasn't a piece about parenting after infertility but I couldn't help but read it through that lens. When I went shopping with Lindsay for Baby Fred gear, I felt like the grim reaper, creeping down every aisle chanting the horrific things that can occur with various baby products.
Do you go for glass bottles which can fall off the table and cut your baby to shreds or do you trust that Avent removed all harmful chemicals from their new and improved bottles? Do you go with the organic formula that has only been on the market for a few years or the more popular brand that has been around longer?
Because it's all about what if? What if you choose the wrong brand and expose your child to harmful chemicals? What if you choose the wrong school and they get left behind on a field trip? Sometimes I feel like I'm drowning in what ifs and I too will say, "better safe than sorry." But as Orenstein asks, safe from what?
We can't protect our children from everything, but we can drive ourselves (and them) into madness worrying about it.
Read the article--it's short--and tell me what you think. For me, it spoke volumes.