This is the twentieth installment of Barren Advice. You can ask questions that are fertility or non-fertility related.
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How do you two stay connected amid parenting?
Lots of sex.
There's also this other thing we do that anyone can try regardless of how much their ass is dragging at the end of the day or how covered they are in spit-up or how unsexual they are feeling after an afternoon of parent-teacher conferences about behaviour.
Live like the Amish.
I don't mean turn off the computer or television or strike up the kerosene lamps. What we've done is borrow the impulse that drives Amish philosophy. The Amish are against technology that splinters populations. Without cars, a family can't move far apart from one another and not see each other. Ipods and cell phones keep someone from striking up a conversation with you. Electric lights and central heating mean that people can split up into different rooms in the house.
The point is to keep people physically together and leave lines of communication open in case conversation occurs. Therefore, from the time Josh comes home until we go to bed, we're usually (with few exceptions) in the same room of the house. We're not necessarily doing the exact same thing, but the option is always there to chat back and forth. We'll read together on the sofa or watch a movie together. Sometimes I'll be on the computer and he'll be reading a book or I'll be writing letters and he'll be watching television.
The point is not to move together like Tweedledee and Tweedledum, but to be physically close so that anything can happen. Including that sex I mentioned in the first place.
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