I'm Missy No Mates today.
I wrote about this on Jendeis's blog but thought it was worth printing here too. I have no problem with posts that vent about a situation or even a group. My problem is with posts that are written about a single person, usually linked to their blog or easily searchable, that are the written version of speaking loudly about someone when you're in the same room. Your intention may not be for them to overhear you, but it's such a strong possibility that your words will reach them. I used the one I found about myself as an example because frankly, it bothered me. No one wants to read that others find them annoying. But the examples I was speaking about were much larger than calling someone annoying.
In my mind, there is a huge difference between venting your spleen at a group of people ("IFers with children annoy me") and a single person ("Melissa annoys me with her damn kumbaya-ness"). In one, the anger is directed at the situation and in the other, it is directed at a single person.
The only danger in some of the generalized "I hate it when..." posts is that sometimes people get what they ask for. I read once in the comment section of a blog that a certain blogger didn't like it when those who had children commented on her blog. I made a mental note of this and haven't commented on her blog again. I then received an email where she asked me if I had stopped reading--she was confused why I had stopped commenting. I told her what I had read and she responded, "oh, but I wasn't talking about you. I like it when you comment." But I belong to that "with children" group. So...it's a mixed message. And that's sort of the problem with blanket statements.
A massive, public thank you to those who embraced my kumbaya-ness and sang along with me today: Bleu, Tracy, Jendeis, and Kir. It means more than you know and certainly more than I can put into words.