There has been a lag between questions, so just to remind y'all the point of these posts and to let new readers in on the discussion, you can reread the first post here. The general idea is that these are quotes from books that I'm reading that have made me pause. And since you can't always speak to the author and start a conversation with them, I thought I'd throw this into the blogosphere and get your reaction.
No one brought up this quote when we were discussing Children of Men, but I marked it in my copy. To set the scene, Jasper is stating that he is not upset by the fact that he'll never have children or grandchildren because the couple knew early on that they were both infertile.
The man states: "You can't mourn for unborn grandchildren when there never was a hope of them."
Which personally harkens images of those who know either without a doubt or with a strong suspicion that they are infertile prior to trying to conceive and still go through the same emotions as all other infertile people when faced with using assisted conception or adoption or contemplating life without children. I think there is a shitload of mourning that goes on in the Land of If even when the inhabitant knew beforehand that they would be setting up camp on this island if they wanted to become a parent.
It made me wonder about my own parents and inlaws and what they went through wondering whether we would produce grandchildren. I have to imagine that they would mourn. I know I certainly mourned pregnancies that had no hope of continuing--where the doctor had told me point-blank were hopeless. I still mourned when it was all over and the blood came.