Now with edits!
Here's a little question to kick off your weekend (because I have a theory about the answers): what is your two-week-wait or your BFN comfort food? The thing you want to eat even though it really doesn't erase the pain of infertilty, but you believe nonetheless that you will feel better (or at least not worse) after eating it? It can be a specific dish from a restaurant or something homemade. Or out of a can (really? Is your secret comfort food canned potatoes too?). Though it may seem pretty self-explanatory, give as much detail as possible in your description. Is the food hot or cold? Is it a family recipe or one from a book? Did you first eat this food in a certain place? For example, my comfort food is vegetarian pho from a Vietnamese restaurant that we used to go to every Saturday. And I order it with extra noodles and tofu, but without cauliflower or mushrooms. See--in order to prove my theory, I need it as specific as possible. And hey, if you have any good recipes, send them along :-) Oh--and one last note: it doesn't have to be what you actually eat every cycle. It can be what you wish you were eating. So if you once ate some fantastic malawach at a Yeminite restaurant in Jerusalem, and you wish you could have it again because you think it would make you feel better as you lounge on the sofa staring at the ceiling, tell me about it. You are also allowed to list more than one meal if narrowing it down to one is stressing you out... All food will be psychoanalyzed in a post later this week.
And now, a little summary of just a few of the cool things I read this week:
Zee is in the process of tricking her ovaries and you can read about her methods at This is NOT What I Ordered. Hopefully, letting the sperm show up without giving the eggs any warning will do the trick. Good luck, Zee!
May of Nuts in May has a post this week about receiving her husband's SA results. After the panic of seeing the first part of a text message (and only scrolling down to read the rest of it after the fact), she ends the post with this last thought: "You know what I think it is? I think it’s because I never ovulate. H’s sperm have nothing to aim for. They’re demotivated." Hang in there, May. I wish the results were better. Here's hoping for small changes yielding big results.
K77 of Scarred Bellybutton has a post titled "Guilt." It is a beautifully written list of all the ways infertility has made her feel guilty--from her current inability to give her son a sibling (I use the term "current" because I am hoping this will change for you, K77) to the money spent on treatments. And while I know I know I know my mother has a problem with the word "guilt," her words really echoed for me and probably will for many a stirrup queen.
An emotion probably as equally familiar to the stirrup queen is jealousy. Furrow at Seed Disperal Mechanisms has a brave post about wanting a sister in the trenches. It's not that she would wish infertility on anyone, but she wants a friend during this journey. And when someone confided that they had a uterine anomaly and had fears about their ability to get pregnant, how could she not grasp onto that idea and feel doubly crushed when this aforementioned woman becomes pregnant prior to her wedding? It's a good post and one that, again, echoed with me.
Lastly, if you are seeking some distraction during the two-week-wait (or an equally stressful time period), head over to Painting Chef and her mix tape project. Wracking your brain to remember what was playing in the car on the way to prom is certainly more fun than staring at that box of pee stick.
Wait! Don't click off of this post without sending me your favourite food for times of high stress--either by leaving a comment or sending me an email (firstname.lastname@example.org) in case your food choice is so bizarre (peanut butter and bacon sandwiches?) that you must keep it semi-anonymous. There really is a point to this...
Editing the food rules: it doesn't just have to be comfort during the two-week-wait or during a BFN. Think big when you think comfort food: what would you want delivered to your house if you just suffered a loss? What would you want magically placed on your table once you have a crying baby in the house and need some nourishment? What could be packaged and delivered that would make you feel good without leaving the house? Remember--the more specific the better. Name restaurants. Name brands. Who knows...sushi may begin magically appearing on your doorstep :-)
That said, if you've already posted your food and wish to add to your request now that you've seen this new bit of information, leave another comment. I'll add it to the list. Really--there is a point to this question...