I recently received an email from RESOLVE about spokesperson Cindy Margolis's decision to model for the December issue of Playboy (my husband's response: "see...I told you Playboy has great articles"). I'm assuming that there has been a backlash from RESOLVE members and they put out an official statement explaining their position that Margolis's professional decisions are her own. Without supporting or condemning her photoshoot, they addressed it as well as the fact that Margolis will continue to be a spokesperson for RESOLVE.
And while I'm normally not a fan of magazines that objectify women and if I catch my husband with this issue he will be an extremely sad man, but...
I think it rocks.
I think a sexy woman, lounging about in almost no clothing, talking about infertility is bold. Frankly, infertility made me feel extremely unattractive. Profoundly unsexy. Grabbing the fat on my stomach to do an injection while Victoria Secret models paraded around the television whispering about their skintimately fantastic bras made me feel like Ursula in the Little Mermaid. A fat, dried up sea-creature-of-a-woman with a messy ponytail and tear streaks on my face.
So I'm all for Cindy Margolis showing off her breasts and taut tummy (her post-IVF, post-motherhood body). I'm all for men who see her as a sex symbol reading about her infertility experience (one son via IVF and twins via a surrogate). Do I think it's going to change the way people think? Not exactly. Do I think that Playboy is "good" for women everywhere. Not exactly. But am I insanely proud that the Playmate of the Month is talking about infertility and "posing for a purpose"? Definitely. Because she's donating proceeds from the sale of the magazine to RESOLVE. And she's putting out the idea that even sexy supermodels suffer from infertility. And she's making that man who's donating his sample in the sperm palace and perusing a certain issue of Playboy think about why he's there and what he's doing. And that's huge. Did she pose for the good of womankind? Doubtful--I'm sure she's being well-paid and it was a career move. But can I see the silver lining in being able to reach a demographic that isn't necessarily tuning into infertility blogs and the RESOLVE web site?
If it gets one secretly-subscribing lawmaker to rethink mandatory funding after seeing his wet dream discussing PIO shots, then I'm all for it.