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Friday, July 14, 2006

Question Seven

What great advice! You're right, all I do need to do is "just relax" and I'll get pregnant in an instant. Relaxation sounds like it can overcome low progesterone, poor eggs, and lack of sperm! Thank you for the thoughtful suggestion.

And...since you're suggesting it, I'm assuming you'll foot the bill for my fantastic, baby-making vacation.

So, to answer all those people who told you to "just relax," where would you like them to send you?

I can't wait for my trip to the Azores! I'm packing tonight.


Tara said...

I'd like them to send me to whichever vacation spot worked for them. :)

C said...

I'll take a nice, long trip to Tahiti from the asshole nurse at my first RE's office who pulled the "just relax" line TWICE during my first appointment. Needless to say, she's one of many reasons why I stopped going to that clinic.

serenity said...

They're sending me to Bora Bora- and I want to stay in one of those huts over the water.


Thanks for letting me get that out. :)

Hopeful Mother said...

Any place would be great as long as they're paying for it!

I know it is impossible to relax at any point as an IFer - you are either in a cycle, obsessing over why a cycle failed, or thinking about your next cycle. Even when IFers get pregnant there is no "relaxing."

And, how can you "relax" when you're paying the amount of an *entire vehicle,* new or used, for one chance to get pregnant like everyone else does *for free*?

Those fertiles just don't get it, cause, gee, relaxing worked for them! Medical issues that cause infertility, what are those?

Seriously, who wants to pay for our trip to Europe? We've already booked the tickets, and we're going to relax.... it's medically necessary, so insurance should cover it, right? Any takers if my insurance claim is rejected?

Royalyne said...

I would love to go back to Niagara. We went there for our honeymoon after we eloped. We had only been trying for 10 days, sex was spontaneous and fun, we both made a lot of noise in bed those nights. You know, even if it was the miracle cure, I'd love to be there again, at the point where you actually can relax and not worry about which cycle day it is or if your cervical mucous is the right consistency. I would definitely like about a dozen people to foot the bill for my time travel back to when IF was unknown and didn't even seem like a possiblity.

Anonymous Infertile said...

Funny that you put this question up today. I just got an email tonight from a very old friend who I just opened up to about our IF situation today - her response was 'to just relax.'
The sad part is that I just want to write back a very nasty email about how relaxing isn't going to cure my polycystic ovaries or my crazy insulin levels BUT, I know that her saying that was probably the only thing she knew to say. Too bad it was all wrong.

To answer your question, I would love an island where I could float in the pool and drink cocktails til my heart's content.

Ellen K. said...

Another vote for the over-the-water bungalow in Bora Bora. : )

I told a friend how much I dislike the "just relax" advice from others, and for my birthday the next month, she gave me a VERY generous spa gift certificate. Which is perhaps another, more subtle way of saying "just relax," but at least I got something nice out of it (though not a BFP).

Melissa said...

Ugh! My Number One pet peeve when it comes to unsolicited advice! I'm sorry hun, but relaxing won't fix my husband's sperm-of which 0% can fertilize my eggs! Not gonna happen honey...And no, although peeing on opk's worked for you, it also, won't help my husband's retarded sperm magically morph into something normal!

Piccinigirl said...

I would love to go anywhere where there is blue water, drinks with umbrellas in them and a pool to die for . Will they pay for my books too? (Ha)

Plus I'd like a month away, my DH and I travel to the Caribbean twice a year at this point and this 7 night isn't enough. I figure a month away, I might JUST RELAX. ARGH, I hate when people tell me to relax , it's the most insensitive thing to say.

Richard said...

I'd like to travel to a world in which relaxing mysteriously grows new sertoli cells and starts them producing sperm again. When they find out where that place is then I'll happily accept the advice to "just relax". Until then they all go to hell as far as I'm concerned.