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Monday, March 02, 2009

IComLeavWe: March

There is a new way to sign up. Please read the directions below.

Welcome back to IComLeavWe. It stands for International Comment Leaving Week, but if you say it aloud, doesn't it sounds like "I come; [but] leave [as a] we"? And that's sort of the point. Blogging is a conversation and comments should be honoured and encouraged. I like to say that comments are the new hug--a way of saying hello, giving comfort, leaving congratulations.

Here is the vital information, pure and simple (a more detailed set of rules follows below the list):
  • The list opens the 1st of every month. It remains open until the 21st. You can add yourself at any point. The list is open to everyone in the blogosphere--blog writers and/or blog readers.
  • Add yourself to the list by filling out this form: This month's list is currently closed. I will move the information from the form into the post (usually within 24 hours).
  • Click here to cut-and-paste this bit of code to add to your sidebar (if you have the old code from another month, remove it and replace it with this one). You need to add the icon or a link to the current list on your blog (see below) and will not be added until it's up.
  • Commenting kicks off every month on the 21st. Please mark it somewhere (calendar, post-it note taped to your computer...), though I will be sending out an email reminder on the 20th. Commenting week runs from the 21st to the 28th. Every day, leave 5 comments and return 1 comment for a total of 6 comments. You are highly encouraged to choose the blogs you comment on from the participants list below, but this is not required.
  • I will send a second email on the 28th to remind you to remove the icon from your blog.
  • Read below if you want to find out about Iron Commenters.
  • The commenting ends on the 28th. We catch our breath and the whole thing starts again the next month on the 1st. Drop in and out according to what is happening in your life between the 21st and the 28th.
The March List
  1. Stirrup Queens (infertility, twins, books)
  2. Weebles Wobblog (open adoption, mindfullness)
  3. Alana-isms (secondary infertility, teaching, family)
  4. Our Quiet Hope (endo, suppression, infertility)
  5. La Dolce Vita (mom, child, fashion)
  6. In Vitro Veritas Blog (ivf, waiting, stupid life)
  7. I'm a Smart One (surrogacy, infertility, parenting after infertility)
  8. Baby Smiling In Back Seat (infertility, IVF, pottery)
  9. All Grown Up (IVF, adoption, random)
  10. Nervous Breakdowns are Highly Underrated (parenting after if)
  11. Awake In the World (infertility, grief, self-acceptance)
  12. Dragondreamer's Lair (parenting, secondary infertility, crafts)
  13. Tubeless in Seattle (infertility, ivf, miscarriage)
  14. A View On My Life (infertility, weight, hobbies)
  15. Learning To Accept My Infertility (IVF, male factor, acceptance)
  16. In Due Time (infertility, pcos, life)
  17. Hello Jello (college, family, animals)
  18. The Olsons ( male factor infertility, miscarriage, teacher)
  19. Elana's Musings (pregnancy, twins, randomness)
  20. Baby Making Business (infertility, hubby and life)
  21. Birds and Squirrels (infertilty, pcos, low morphology)
  22. Tales of a Brown Eyed Girl (pregnancy, family, preparing for baby)
  23. My So-Called Life (mthfr, infertility, miscarriage)
  24. Sticky Feet (twin pregnancy, IVF, parenting)
  25. That's My Answer (life, silly questions, reader opinions)
  26. Life Induces Thoughts, Mostly Random (grief, acceptance, family)
  27. Bella And Her Fella (POF, DE/IVF, thyroid cancer)
  28. Body Diaries by Lucy (infertility, PCOS, TTC)
  29. The Baby Makin Chronicles (TTC, nursing, life)
  30. To Baby and Beyond (infertility, miscarriage, PCOS)
  31. Parenthood for Me (infertility, adoption, coping)
  32. Baby, Borneo or Bust... (infertility, career, life)
  33. What IF? (IVF/ICSI, male factor, endo)
  34. A Fifth Season (grief, family, life study)
  35. Destined to be an Old Woman with No Regrets (pregnancy, miscarriage, life)
  36. Letting it Out (parenting, family drama, infertility)
  37. Making Me Mom (MFI, spotting, faith)
  38. Infertile Myrtle (endometriosis, infertility, iui)
  39. Heeeeere Storkey, Storkey! (twins, ttc #3, life)
  40. MoJo Working (IUI, marriage, faith)
  41. Hobbit-ish Thoughts & Ramblings ( ttc after miscarriages, books, life)
  42. Communique (life, infertility, me)
  43. The Long Journey (secondary infertility, weight loss and life)
  44. Trying for a baby (TTC, endometriosis, feelings)
  45. Life and Times of Kimbosue (pregnancy, IUI, randomness)
  46. One Must Continue to Believe (loss of twins, ivf)
  47. The Real Bean (child loss, IVF, sketches)
  48. ISO the Golden Egg (SMC, donor FET)
  49. Not So Newlywed (infertility, scrapbooking, marriage)
  50. Exploring Chaos (infertility, life, travel)
  51. Life is Good (infertility; ivf #1; life)
  52. The New Life of Nancy (opinions, life, miscellaneous)
  53. The Other Life of Nancy (children, parenting, opinions)
  54. Scarlet Baby (male factor, infertility)
  55. Infertility Rocks! (infertility, coping, humor)
  56. Trying To Make 3 (marriage, work, life)
  57. Trying For Two (pcos, secondary infertility, ttc)
  58. Raindrops on Roses (ttc, daily life)
  59. Womb For Improvement (infertility, waiting, random)
  60. A Hopeful Unicorn (uterine anomaly, infertility, sarcasm)
  61. Not The Path I Chose (secondary IF, RPL, life)
  62. Building Heavenly Bridges (grief, loss, writing)
  63. The Bear and The Comedian (parenting after loss, humor, pictures)
  64. Dreams Come True Sometimes (iui, life, if)
  65. C by the Sea (beginning, IUI, acupuncture)
  66. The Pieces of My Life (infertility, iui, secondary infertility)
  67. Be Still and Know (adoption, homestudy, faith)
  68. Meepit On Parade (infertility, life, loss)
  69. Inconceivable (IF, NOA, IVF)
  70. Cyster A.C.T. (PCOS, mental health, diet)
  71. Still No Explanation (infertility, baby, exercise)
  72. Just Want to Be a Mom (m/f, ivf/icsi, stress)
  73. Barefoot and (Not) Pregnant (ivf/icsi, food/wine, infertility)
  74. The Johnson's Have Angel Wings (balanced translocation, miscarriage, infertility)
  75. Overeducated Mommy (stillbirth, parenting after loss, grief)
  76. In Pursuit of Parenthood (infertility, faith, waiting)
  77. With God, All Things are Possible! (infertility, ivf, ectopic)
  78. Lifeslurper (IVF after 40)
  79. The Not So Secret Life Of Us (recurrent miscarriage, life)
  80. Here Is To Another Day (unexplained infertility, break from ttc, randomness)
  81. I Just Want to be a Mom ("the" endless journey)
  82. Our Life in a Nutchell (IVF#2, OHSS, pregnancy)
  83. Faith, Hope & Poop? (family, teaching, books)
  84. Thinking Positively (adoption, secondary infertility, endometriosis)
  85. Musings of a Fat Chick (SMC, fertility, fat)
  86. Eggs Benedict Arnold (adoption, infertility, family)
  87. Gas Passer aka UUer (unicornuate uterus, anesthesia, parenting after IVF)
  88. It is Tuesday, Right? (parenthood, breastfeeding, life)
  89. Blissful Body Yoga Blog (yoga, meditation, wellness)
  90. The Life of Liv (IUI, infertility, life)
  91. Baby Making Journey (azoo, vents, waiting)
  92. Ninapintasantamaria's Blog (trying to conceive)
  93. Eye Heart Internet (insemination, painting, expat)
  94. Mustard Seed Baby (endo, faith, ivf)
  95. Conceive This! (MFI, IVF/ICSI, yikes)
  96. The Saga of Becoming Fruitful (ivf, cost, faith)
  97. Eccentric Young Infertile (pregnancy, feminism, homebirth)
  98. A Woman My Age (infertility, adoption, life)
  99. Mommy Confessions (confessions, parenting, lunacy)
  100. Journey of Faith (ttc, faith, repeat miscarriage)
  101. The Unfair Struggle (male-factor if, busy/insane life, friendship)
  102. The Divine Miss Mommy (parenting, kids, opinion)
  103. My Little Drummer Boys (IVF twins, pregnancy loss, daily life)
  104. Double Delight (twins, egg-donation, parenting)
  105. Forcing Seeds (ivf, mfi, gardening)
  106. A New Wheeler for the World? (pcos, iui, infertility)
  107. Pundelina Kafoops Lives Here (TTC, life, studying)
  108. Love With Caution (china, child, culture)
  109. Life and Love in the Petri Dish (IVF #4, two week wait, co-culture)
  110. Hope Endures (infertility, pcos, ttc)
  111. Rambling into the Unknown (infertility, bitterness, life)
  112. The list is now closed. Check back on April 1st for the new list.

You have questions...I have answers:

Q: What if I miss a day?
A: Catch up the next day by doubling your comments--12 comments instead of 6.

Q: What is an Iron Commenter?
A: Not for the faint-of-heart. People who wish to be an Iron Commenter and be entered on the Iron Commenter honour roll need to leave a comment on every blog on the participants list (exceptions are blogs that require you to have a special log-in, such as some LiveJournal accounts or other similar situations). You can spread out this commenting any way you wish over the whole week, but the final comment needs to be left by midnight on the 28th (EST). Reaching Iron Commenter status is done on an honour system. Please email me if you earn Iron Commenter status so I can add you to the wall of honour.

Q: Why do I have to add that bit of code to my sidebar?
A: The code is the latest icon (the icon changes colour every month so you know that you're on the right list). This month, the icon is purple, the next month it will be green, etc. The reason is two-fold: (1) it enables more people to find out about IComLeavWe and (2) it gives you easy access to the current list once the commenting week actually begins and better ensures that you'll use it. Too many times, people sign up and forget to actually do IComLeavWe and this icon gives you a daily reminder (with the dates on it) every time you open your own blog. The icon is linked back to the current list. On the 28th, remove the icon from your blog. A new one will be created for the next month.

Q: It's the 23rd and I just saw this for the first time on my friend's blog! I want to join the list--why can't I?
A: Because IComLeavWe happens every month, once the list is closed, it's closed. If you're finding out about this on the 23rd, you can't join the current month. But leave yourself a note to check back in a week on the 1st and you can sign up for the next month.

Q: You said the list closes on the 21st. Well, it's still the 21st where I am. Why aren't you moving my information onto the list?
A: All dates and times are U.S. Eastern Standard Time (UTC/GMT -5 hours).

Q: What if no one comments on my blog and I have no comments to return?
A: Well, that really doesn't happen for the most part, but in that case, simply choose another blog and add an additional comment. The goal is to hit 6 comments daily as a minimum. Going over that is fantastic and encouraged.

Q: Mel, my question wasn't covered at all. What do I do?
A: Email me; I'm quite friendly. It helps to place "IComLeavWe" in the subject line. You could also check this post which contains the history of IComLeavWe and see if you can glean anything there.

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