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Friday, July 10, 2009

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This is an open apology specifically to my father, but also to all fathers with daughters. I am so sorry for the music.

The Wolvog recently decided that he loves Joseph and his Amazing Technicolour Dreamcoat. Frankly, it makes me happy too, especially the song "Go Go Go Joseph" when they're chanting "go go Joe, go go Joe" and then the song explodes into the chorus. You know what I'm talking about?

I now own the CD with Donny Osmond (pretty much everyone in their thirties and beyond is probably considering their favourite Osmond right now. Seeing their last name does that to you. And there were so many to choose from. My favourite was Jimmy, especially on that Fame episode), but my camp did a production of the show back in the 80s and until the late 90s, that was the only copy of the music I owned.

And I subjected my father to it on a road trip.

I remember popping in the cassette, promising him that he was going to "love it" because why wouldn't he love it as much as I did, remembering our female Joseph whirling around the stage (there were no boys in camp who could hit the notes). My memories of singing the songs during a shaving cream fight with the other girls cabin were so strong that they must spill out of me and enter everyone in the car through osmosis.

Just to repeat, it was a tape of Joseph and his Amazing Technicolour Dreamcoat.

And if that wasn't enough, it was being sung by thirteen-year-olds.

And if that wasn't enough, it was recorded on an old tape recorder that I had placed on my lap during the performance so you could hear me laughing and talking with people over the music.

And if that wasn't enough, it was the entire score. A 90 minute tape.

I'm sorry, dad.

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The Weekly What If: What if you could rewind time for one of your teen celebrity crushes and return them to how they looked back during your crush stage? Which celebrity would you bestow this gift on (they'd return to how they looked during their Tiger Beat days. In other words, they'd lose the bloat and receding hairline). Which celebrity do you think would want this gift the most? Which one would you like to gaze at in magazines again? Who just didn't age well and was cuter in youth? And...just for kicks...who aged the best and doesn't need your tremendous powers to restore their youthful looks?

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You've probably already seen this because it has been out for four days, but more power to Sons of Maxwell for holding companies accountable.

Dave Carroll writes: "In the spring of 2008, Sons of Maxwell were traveling to Nebraska for a one-week tour and my Taylor guitar was witnessed being thrown by United Airlines baggage handlers in Chicago. I discovered later that the $3500 guitar was severely damaged. They didn’t deny the experience occurred but for nine months the various people I communicated with put the responsibility for dealing with the damage on everyone other than themselves and finally said they would do nothing to compensate me for my loss. So I promised the last person to finally say “no” to compensation (Ms. Irlweg) that I would write and produce three songs about my experience with United Airlines and make videos for each to be viewed online by anyone in the world."





The Chicago Sun Times has the end (for now) of the story which is that they suddenly saw the error of their ways on the 8th after it received almost a half million views and finally apologized to Dave Carroll. It's a great song. I hope he makes the next two in the three-part series.

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And now, the blogs...

As I've said before, I just keep a running list each week of things I read that moved me. Some end up Kirtsy'd, some end up here, some end up being emailed to various people with a "read this!" exclamation included. Sometimes, as I'm writing the Roundup, I look to see if there was a theme. And the ones that came onto the list this week are all wistful, all touching, all about the reminders we receive either when we're looking or where we least expect it.

Hold My Hope has a post about her brother. She writes of various online programs: "They all contain something I can’t delete: my brother’s contact information. And they like to post reminders of his upcoming birthday. It’s weird. I remember; I don’t need the reminders. He would be turning 30 in a couple of weeks. But I can’t delete the records." Even though I obviously never knew her brother, I found the post incredibly moving. I don't think I could ever delete a reminder either.

Our Own Creation has a post that illustrates how interconnected we are as the blogosphere crosses into the face-to-face world and back. Preparing for her D&C, sitting in a curtained waiting area, she heard a couple who was having trouble getting an IV started murmuring about this blog. Personally, I like to think that it was fate reaching out its hand, connecting two people through this third. On the same day that Allison was in the office, I was cleaning the rocks I collected for Allison on the beach. Isn't that a strange twist of fate? That we see these reminders of the other person, sometimes right when we need them. And I would like to thank this woman for being the bridge between Allison and I at that moment by quoting some of Allison's words. If you recognize them, the moment comes full circle: "So, to the woman who was sitting next to me on the other side of that curtain Thursday morning, I hope all of your failed IV bruises are healing. My wrist is one big green bruise with a set of two purple fang marks in the middle. At least you can tell the story of the brick! And I hope your fertilization report was a good one. Good luck to you."

Edenland has a post called "Retrospection is for Pussies." It is a post about her war wounds--the days after her son was born, when her husband was in the hospital. One of the greatest exchanges of all time appears in the post:
Finally I cracked the shits. "Look, you know what? No, I'm not bringing him in for a test. He's not deaf."

She couldn't believe it. "But how do you KNOW he's not deaf?"

"Because his dad is in hospital with cancer. He can't have a sick dad AND be deaf."
There were actually too many moments that I loved in this post to note here, but the ending is just about perfect. I think this post sums up why Eden needs to produce a memoir.

Lastly, To Baby and Beyond has a post about how she thought life would turn out. She was watching a reality show that was forecasting how the marriages would unfold and it made her consider her own, where she thought she would be with family building ten years into marriage. She writes, "My dreams, year by year, get less and less. At this point I would be ecstatic with 1! What is it you were always told as a kid? Never give up on your dream...never settle for less...if you try hard enough you can have anything you want. HAH I laugh [read cry] at that." The whole post is amazing and moving and contains one of the most profound thoughts I read this week. But you'll need to click over to read the post in full.

The roundup to the Roundup: Sorry, dad, about the show tunes. Answer the Weekly What If in all of its many parts this week. Watch a video for a really catch-y song. And lots of great posts to read.

Wednesday, July 08, 2009

The 60th Circle Time: The Show and Tell Weekly Thread

Show and Tell is wasted on elementary schoolers. Join several dozen bloggers weekly to show off an item, tell a story, and get the attention of the class. In other words, this is Show and Tell 2.0. Everyone is welcome to join, even if you have never posted before and just found out about Show and Tell for the first time today. So yank out a photo of the worst bridesmaid's dress you ever wore and tell us the story; show off the homemade soup you cooked last night; or tell us all about the scarf you made for your first knitting project. Details on how to participate are located at the bottom of this post.

Let's begin.

A while back, we heard about a life-sized dollhouse on the Shepherd University campus in West Virginia. According to this Shepherdstown website, "This magnified dollhouse was built as part of a student project in 1929. The two-story house has 10 rooms that measure 10 by nine and a half feet. The little house was built so that Shepherd teachers could observe children playing in a controlled, laboratory environment."

I can't find the picture I took of Josh standing next to the house to give you perspective, but he is tall enough to look into those top windows if he strains and with his feet firmly planted on the ground, his head comes up past the start of the roof.

You would think that it would stick out a bit in the neighbourhood, wouldn't you. Except the first time we drove around the campus, we couldn't find it. And the next time we went to Shepherdstown, we couldn't find it and it's not a large campus. Then we forgot about it. On our last trip to the town, we were walking down the street, talking about how much I wanted an eggroll, and I looked up and there it was.

Looking in the windows made me wish I were Alice and could squeeze myself inside.

What are you showing today?

Click here or scroll down to the bottom of this post if this is your first time joining along (Important: link to the permalink for the post, not the main url for your blog and use your blog's name, not your name. Links not going to a Show and Tell post will be deleted). The list is open from now until late Friday night and a new one is posted every week.


Other People Standing at the Head of the Class:



Want to bring something to Show and Tell?
  • If you would like to join circle time and show something to the class, simply post each Wednesday night (or any time between Wednesday morning and Friday night), hopefully including a picture if possible, and telling us about your item. It can be anything--a photo from a trip, a picture of the dress you bought this week, a random image from an old yearbook showing a person you miss. It doesn't need to contain a picture if you can't get a picture--you can simply tell a story about a single item. The list opens every Wednesday night and closes on Friday night.
  • You must mention Show and Tell and include a link back to this post in your post so people can find the rest of the class. This spreads new readership around through the list. This is now required.
  • Label your post "Show and Tell" each week and then come back here and add the permalink for the post via the Mr. Linky feature (not your blog's main url--use the permalink for your specific Show and Tell post).
  • Oh, and then the point is that you click through all of your classmates and see what they are showing this week. And everyone loves a good "ooooh" and "aaaah" and to be queen (or king) of the playground for five minutes so leave them a comment if you can.
  • Did you post a link and now it's missing?: I reserve the right to delete any links that are not leading to a Show and Tell post or are the blogging equivalent of a spitball.

Tuesday, July 07, 2009

The Lost Week Found in Pictures (Friday and Beyond)

Continued from yesterday...children seen and mentioned...

By Friday, I had not really checked email in three days. I had not cleaned the house or packed our bags or slept for more than four hours or shaved my legs (I wanted to give the Senate staff a true Melissa experience with stubbly legs and a nice white skirt). And then Josh left for the office to work for a few hours before we got on the road and I baked 24 bagels to eat during Vampire Weekend.

Vampire Weekend contained neither vampires (unless you count Edward) nor took place solely on the weekend. But doesn't the name sound intriguing?

Every year, we go on holiday with our friends to their beach house and they endure the shifting moods of the ChickieNob and Wolvog (and our friends' patience constantly amazes me). Their house is on the Intercoastal Highway and you can sit in the backyard and watch the boats pass.

The ChickieNob and Wolvog usually come with "good ideas." Such as hole digging. Holes must always been made in the beach.

M, beginning the first hole of the day

The hole was large enough for the twins to climb inside

Every day went much in the same way: we woke up, tried to figure out ways to grab more sleep and contain the twins, slathered on the sunblock, parked ourselves at the beach, frolicked in the water or read Twilight, came back to the house to begin the arduous task of removing sand from bodily crevices (the ChickieNob's beach nickname is Shake n' Bake because she likes to drop to her knees when she reaches the sand and roll through it, encrusting herself like a skinless chicken breast dipped in sweaty sunblock), grabbed dinner, and then gave all of the money (that didn't go to Stephenie Meyer) to Funland.

And every day repeated the same way.

Another day, another hole

On our second to last day at the beach, we all piled into our cars and drove to Crisfield to catch the ferry to Smith Island. It was a little nerve-wracking because Smith Island is certainly my favourite place, but it is always hard to show your favourite place to another person because it may not translate. It is the same with favourite recipes, favourite books, and favourite paint swatches. Sometimes, they just don't mean the same thing for the other person.

Either our friends had the kind-heart to lie, or they enjoyed it too.

We ate lunch by the water and the staff remembered us from our last visit. I know that the twins gather attention sometimes as multiples usually do, but they weren't the ones who triggered the woman's memory. "You!" she exclaimed when I passed her to go to the bathroom. "You're that girl who had waited years to see Smith Island! You came here last year."


No crab cakes or rockfish for me...I brought my own peanut butter and jelly sandwich

We tried to get to the other island this time, calling Waverly over to Tylerton to see if he could pick us up. But we never heard back from him so we rented golf carts and took a ride around the island, pausing to take pictures.





It was hard to leave. I again broached the idea with Josh of purchasing land on the island, of taking off the year to live there, especially since his blackberry still worked on the island and ferry. I think because our time there is so limited and I love it so intensely, it makes every trip feel a little frantic. I love Smith Island like Bella loves Edward. There, I said it. The reason I love the books is because I have the same smouldering intensity with a piece of marsh land.

Wearing braids because Entertainment Weekly told us that buns were out, pigtails were five minutes ago and braids were in. And we take all of our hair advice from Entertainment Weekly

A photo taken by the Wolvog

Before we went home, we spent one more day at the beach and returned to Funland for a final visit. The ChickieNob wanted me to win her a stuffed pony and I sat down to one of those midway games where you need to roll balls into a hole and it makes your horse jump ahead. Even though I am the most uncoordiated person in the world, I managed to win on my first try and it was such a high that I ran around the boardwalk shrieking.

I tried again to win the Wolvog a stuffed dog, tossing a wiffle ball onto a painted muffin pan, which I sucked at big time. I used up six tries and then looked down at him, his lower lip quivering and heard him say, "why can't you win something for me?"

And, please, tell me that you wouldn't rig a game for a heartbreaking moment like that.

The four adults all went to play each other at this game where you squirt a target with a water gun in order to make your marker rise. One of us obviously had to win, and we did, though it didn't have the same high that came from the pony game. We went on some rides, ate Thrashers, and walked the main drag, coming to a pause by our car.

Some vacations, you're ready to leave once you get in the car. And some vacation-ends only fill you with dread because you're thinking about what you'll return to once you reach work and home. But leaving this vacation filled me with sadness because I've always wanted to go on holiday with friends; been one of those couples who children grow up with fictive kin that they holidayed with year after year. And it occurred to me as we got in the car that we have that. That we're grown-ups and we have those friends and it fills me with thankfulness and emotion.

And now back to our regularly scheduled week.

Monday, July 06, 2009

The Lost Week Found in Pictures (Wednesday and Thursday)

children mentioned and seen...

I have finally finished undigging from the final week in June, a week that included my blogoversary, Advocacy Day, seeing four bloggers, going to the beach, and stripping amongst kosher beef. An explanation in pictures...

Wednesday:

Woke up and went to meet Lindsay on the farm to pick blueberries.

Drove back towards home to meet Lindsay and Karen for lunch. Decided it would save time if we changed into our bathing suits at the restaurant for the splash park we were going to after we ate. Forgot that I had marked up my breast when I found the lump until the ChickieNob started calling out, "someone has written on my mommy's boobie! Someone drew on my mommy with a Sharpie! We don't draw on skin!" Thankfully, she never noticed the fact that I had Meghan's name scrawled across my breast a few weeks ago.

Went to the splash park and splashed our hearts out.

Ran home and jumped in the shower. Tried to make myself look presentable because I was meeting Cassandra at a conference center which had the vibe of Bohemian Grove. Wondered as I drive through the campus if Cassandra is secretly part of the Illuminati, which would explain the great questions she asks for Thoughtful Thursdays. We went to get Starbucks so I could drink coffee and stare at her glossy glossy hair. It is like out of a Pantene ad. She is exactly as you would expect from her blog. Smart, funny, and inquisitive. I had a great time and wish we could have had a full day together.

Went home and collapsed.

Thursday:

Woke up and again tried to make myself look presentable. Josh went to drop off the kids and I drove to meet Josh so we could go downtown together but I could have my car later. Decided halfway into the trip that I needed to pee. Decided 3/4th of the way into the trip that I needed to pee so badly that I would not reach Josh with dry underpants. Pulled off in park and peed in a port-a-potty. Tried to look as if it were normal to stop by a park in business attire without a child and pee in said port-a-potty.

No pictures, thankfully.

Got downtown to Advocacy late. Met up with my fellow Marylanders. Felt like the weakest link in our group which included fellow bloggers, Body Diaries by Lucy, Two is a Family, and My Nest, Someone Else's Eggs (which are not the people featured below).

Ran by Julie's table to say, "hey, I'm feeding you tonight." And then swung back in the room when I found out Marisa was there! Could not have been more excited to meet her face-to-face after watching her inject videos numerous times. It was pretty damn emotional to get to hug her.


I'm not sure I can sum up how it feels to enter the Senate office buildings. Well, I can start here: there is an entirely different vibe in the air right now than there was for the last few years. It's not just because I'm happier with government. It was just a remarkable (as in, everyone was remarking on it) difference from the way people smiled at you in the hallway to the feeling that you belonged in that space--that as a citizen, you have a right to ask your elected officials to help you.

Our first appointment was at Ben Cardin's office. We met solely with staffers. My first meeting was definitely my best meeting. I felt like the staffer heard us and we articulated the message well. I tagged along to Barbara Mikulski's office just because I love her and wanted to soak up the vibes of being near her even if she wasn't in the room.

I met with the staff for a congressman from New Jersey as well as Donna Edwards. All in all, it was an incredibly powerful, emotional day. Thank you, Resolve, for organizing it.

Jumped on the Metro and headed to pick up the kids, sitting next to a very chatty teenager who wanted to tell me the story of her trip to Washington for about 12 stops. Doesn't notice that I am merely nodding at her with a glazed expression on my face. Got off, grabbed the kids, raced home, gave them a meal while I cooked, tucked them in, and then went downstairs to collapse for five minutes before Julie came.

Meal: Salad. Pasta with kalamata olives and fresh mozzarella. Pizza di Patate. Chocolate chip cookies. Conversation: salty, fizzy, sweet, and surprising.

Josh learned a new word from Julie: anhedonia--which is the inability to derive pleasure from pleasurable things.

Julie tried to steal my plates. My beautiful plates given to us by Josh's grandparents. It has since been a week so I can't remember why we took this picture or why we thought it was funny...but it was...at the time. And we hadn't even cracked open the bottle of wine she brought. So this is life...sober.


It was wonderful to get time again with Julie, but like last time, it was just too damn short. She is the type of house guest who would not smell like rotted fish after three days (or however that saying goes). In fact, I am quite sure that if you kept giving me liquid and food, I could have sat there indefinitely (oh...and I guess a little sleep). She is just fascinating and funny and exactly like a human version of her blog.

These pictures made me realize that I am so freakin' short. After dinner, Josh drove her back to the Metro, but she missed the last train so he took her into Bethesda. In the meantime, I did a frantic clean-up and load of laundry because the next day, we left for Vampire Weekend at the beach.


The rest of the stories and pictures coming tomorrow...

Sunday, July 05, 2009

Languid

book lust...

plus cake love...

equals afternoon delight?