tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post8909979527687868347..comments2023-08-15T05:02:58.115-04:00Comments on Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters: Place Your Drink Atop the Empty BoxLollipop Goldsteinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-55894798573579238282009-01-03T19:39:00.000-05:002009-01-03T19:39:00.000-05:00I'm *always* late to the party. I'm a newbie here...I'm *always* late to the party. <BR/><BR/>I'm a newbie here - new to the Lushary and new to the IF blogging community. I'm realizing I picked a good name - not in a place anyone else is (that I've seen), I've been living in a world of total emotional freezeout of the fact of being infertile, and I'm preparing to consider treatment again for the first time in well over a year. I've had no expectation of my own pregnancy and no tears at anyone else's. I'm scared to start trying again because I'm afraid I'll have to care again and it nearly killed me before. But I can't totally give up just now. I'm 26 with no identified cause of infertility yet. <BR/><BR/>If it gets bad when I have to start seeing :::doctors::: again, I'm going to have me a virtual Long Island, even though I stopped drinking years ago and I'm a serious lightweight. For today, I want a great big super-rich mint hot chocolate with no dregs at the bottom and inches of whipped cream with chocolate shavings. Is that available here? I always ask for hot cocoa in IRL bars (I really do). They never have it.the misfithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05206278843624907697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-71323752058193147512008-12-05T11:15:00.000-05:002008-12-05T11:15:00.000-05:00Hi EveryoneIt's my first time here. At the moment...Hi Everyone<BR/><BR/>It's my first time here. At the moment I am enjoying some fine oral progesterone-like stuff called Duphaston for duffus's like me who have suddenly forgotten how to have a period. Ah cycle day 64, got to love it.<BR/><BR/>We're supposed to only have MFI but a persistantly missing MIA AF showed up to surprise us...<BR/><BR/>My RE won't/can't answer this question: We've done 2 fresh IVF cycles and we are lucky enough to get excellent follicles, a round dozen eggies, 80% fertilisation (compliments of ICSI), fabulous expanding blastocysts (7 in one cycle) and a really juicy lining. Inspite of all this wonderful supposed fertility, no positive results. <BR/><BR/>What are the chances that another couple of cycles could yield a positive result? I'll do them, I'll be injected, scanned, retrieved from, transferred to, the works but am I still in with a reasonable chance? <BR/><BR/>Er, thanks, I'll have one of those disgusting fishbowl things in an unnatural bright blue colour.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12329790611751207067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-28487729848403445642008-11-18T15:53:00.000-05:002008-11-18T15:53:00.000-05:00Something strong. Short and sharp. Shooters, I thi...Something strong. Short and sharp. Shooters, I think. Any kind will do.<BR/><BR/>I am late to this lushary. But holy hannah, do I ever need it.<BR/><BR/>Long story short - my fertility plans have been upended after my third blood clot in my leg (aka DVT or "economy-class syndrome"). In order to heal up, I have to wait three months for my first iui. <BR/><BR/>This just sucks, y'know?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-43753372397525863132008-11-14T09:35:00.000-05:002008-11-14T09:35:00.000-05:00today has been a decent day, but i'll buy the next...today has been a decent day, but i'll buy the next round for anyone that needs another! our dryer is broken, so i have wet laundry hanging all over the house. but that's not a bad day if that's all there is to complain about. maybe i'll take a drink in celebration that today has been the best day of the week!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-43287888091878089842008-11-14T08:37:00.000-05:002008-11-14T08:37:00.000-05:00OK, it's 8:30 am right now, but pour me a rum and ...OK, it's 8:30 am right now, but pour me a rum and diet coke, I'll save it for later.<BR/><BR/>I'm getting ready for my pottery show. Which always stresses me. I hate the meet and greet part of selling "art". (Mostly because I am not good at that kind of schmoosing.) (How does one spell schmoosing??)beaglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17627886826215379414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-15046157216247497212008-11-14T01:03:00.000-05:002008-11-14T01:03:00.000-05:00Mel, I would love a drink. I am not much of a drin...Mel, I would love a drink. I am not much of a drinker usually, so I'll take whatever you think is good.<BR/><BR/>I am still struggling with my anger at all of the stuff we've been through this year. I need to shift my perspective and let myself just enjoy, but I find I am waiting for the next shoe to drop. I hate that feeling! I hope this is just a short phase that will soon pass. I guess I need to lighten up some. Sigh.Staciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01471803757485977959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-11271729523429165552008-11-14T00:06:00.000-05:002008-11-14T00:06:00.000-05:00I need a really, really big drink tonight. 2yr old...I need a really, really big drink tonight. 2yr old niece was a total terror today. NYEBoy pissed me off, too. Oh, and my 34th cycle started yesterday. I broke down a few times today.<BR/><BR/>After today I think I might make a horrible Mom!<BR/><BR/>Tomorrow has to be better, it's FRIDAY!In Due Timehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17114196208633521694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-4397476421818200352008-11-14T00:01:00.000-05:002008-11-14T00:01:00.000-05:00Ugh - I could totally use a drink. Oddly enough, I...Ugh - I could totally use a drink. Oddly enough, I am totally sucking on some dum dums and was just doing inventory on what alcohol we have because family is coming over Saturday for dinner and they want Long Island Iced Teas and Margaritas. Sadly, you can't make a virgin Long Island - unless you just have a glass of coke, ha ha! - so I guess I'll make do with a virgin Margarita IRL and a virtual Long Island on here.<BR/><BR/>Why I want a drink: It's too much to explain. Follow me back to my journal to read the whole story but the topics include my late fiance's mother being strangely possessive of me (and this pregnancy/unborn child) and his crazy family's issues, including his sister's transgendered wife who has a temper.<BR/><BR/>Fun, fun!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-42425814872063105282008-11-13T23:58:00.000-05:002008-11-13T23:58:00.000-05:00This is just what I need: a drink and good company...This is just what I need: a drink and good company. I’ll let you choose for me, something sweet yet strong. So here is what is going on with me: After 3 years of infertility I had my baby 7 months ago. I was in cloud nine. However, shortly after she was born my husband told me he is not sure if he loves me or if he ever did We’ve been married for 7 years and now he chooses the worst timing ever to “realize “ this. I am so angry and hurt. People tell me to patient , it is just the stress of having a new baby. I tired of starting he hard conversations, asking the hard questions… maybe I need to need to meet this candy woman and she will tell me like it is and I will quit wanting things to work out and loving him. Oh, I almost forgot, I’ll turn 30 in 7 days, not at all how I thought I would start the new decade.Cibelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02361386515177047271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-75279326007437702792008-11-13T19:10:00.000-05:002008-11-13T19:10:00.000-05:00I could really use a virtual mojito right now!I ju...I could really use a virtual mojito right now!<BR/><BR/>I just started my IVF cycle, with the Lupron. That hasn't been bad, the doxycyclin is the one killing me! <BR/>I'm trying everything I can to be positive and go through this process with joy and love, which is tough to accomplish amidst massive headaches. But I'll get there.<BR/>To us! brave, loving and courageous women!Petruciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15779047222262497847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-91688877704211631672008-11-13T18:04:00.000-05:002008-11-13T18:04:00.000-05:00I could use a drink. Some wine perhaps? A nice r...I could use a drink. Some wine perhaps? A nice red?<BR/><BR/>I've been having dreams about the baby dying or already being dead. I want to enjoy this, to relish that my body is doing this and doing it right, but the fear is almost overwhelming.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08339920449924488366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-22478930256363313902008-11-13T17:47:00.000-05:002008-11-13T17:47:00.000-05:00Its been such a long time. And as for your post I...Its been such a long time. And as for your post I would have kicked him in the face, scratched his eyes out then kneed him in the balls. Seems like a good sequence.<BR/><BR/>For once, no issues here so I want a rum and diet coke, and for everyone else a round is on me.FattyPantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08471930990530375865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-70002992674092529702008-11-13T17:24:00.000-05:002008-11-13T17:24:00.000-05:00Oh how I could use a drink. Maybe my usual margari...Oh how I could use a drink. Maybe my usual margarita. Or better the long island iced tea served in a fish bowl like my friends and I used to get when we went out on my birthday. Work has been full of drama and all the cycle stress etc. That said since I'm in the middle of my cycle I suppose I should abstain and since I've had a headache for days and I think I remember someone saying that could be related to dehydration I suppose I should just have water. Fun huh??battynursehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02240029154165501340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-40548210546217130372008-11-13T17:15:00.000-05:002008-11-13T17:15:00.000-05:00Kristen, sorry, but that Purple Alaskan Thunderfuc...Kristen, sorry, but that Purple Alaskan Thunderfuck sounds disgusting! The ginger mojito sounds good, though.<BR/><BR/>Well, I get to shoot up ganirelix for the first time tonight to make sure my lonely follie doesn't pop too soon. (Alright, in all honesty I have 2 follies, but the 2nd one is measuring under 10.) A friend told me that the ganirelix needles are DULL and need to really be stabbed in!! WTF? Why? I want to know why??<BR/><BR/>I'm hormonal and cranky. Pass the booze and chocolate. Ooh, there's an idea ... chocolate martinis!Dorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16255190971670471758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-82249201241287737622008-11-13T17:03:00.000-05:002008-11-13T17:03:00.000-05:00I will have a glass of chilled white wine. Not my ...I will have a glass of chilled white wine. Not my usual, but mixing it up a bit sounds good. It's been a month and a half since the miscarriage and AF has come back. The fertile world would celebrate, but for me it's nothing but a cruel joke with cramps. It's not like we can get pregnant on our own anyway. If one more person asks me when we are going to "try again" I think I may scream. We haven't stopped trying thank you very much. We haven't stopped since we started four years ago. I think I'm the bitter person tonight. I'm sorry. It can be so frustrating waiting and wishing. I wish I felt like what we have is enough. Is is wrong to want more than one child? Why do people not understand that you still feel cheated with just one when you wanted three. People just say you should be grateful for what you have and you are but you're not complete.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-6953124971720493262008-11-13T15:24:00.000-05:002008-11-13T15:24:00.000-05:00I think I need a drink - a double or more!I'm ...I think I need a drink - a double or more!<BR/><BR/>I'm feeling particularly lost following the failure of our FET - undecided what to do next. So a drink to forget would be good and I'll revert to my teenage years Vodka & Coke sounds good.nhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08579146100268312887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-85516133747222207342008-11-13T14:46:00.000-05:002008-11-13T14:46:00.000-05:00Hello! I haven't pulled up a stool in a long time...Hello! I haven't pulled up a stool in a long time. I will have some red wine and chocolate please!<BR/><BR/>Things are going well for us. We are enjoying our Little Butterfly and hoping she will help lift our spirits during the winter.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for having this. I felt like the company of some women this morning.Kamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01215000341567119958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-55133740668608491212008-11-13T13:52:00.000-05:002008-11-13T13:52:00.000-05:00Mel, if you enjoy bitter people sometime, let's ha...Mel, if you enjoy bitter people sometime, let's have a drink...I'll take care of your bitterness quota for sure.<BR/><BR/>I'm not in the mood for a drink - the mere smell of alcohol right now makes me pukie. Perhaps a nice ginger ale?<BR/><BR/>But, boy, I am ready to bitch, bitch, bitch. He who has ears, let him hear!<BR/><BR/>It's my husband. I'm SO sick of being his mother and his wife. Why do I have to ASK him to do things to help out around the house and yard? Honestly, if I let the house to go to crap, it would. Maybe once or twice has he actually offered to make dinner. I have to ASK him. He'll wait until 10pm for me to make something rather than take the initiative. <BR/><BR/>I think what's got me going is the obvious teeming amounts of hormones pumping through my body, but also, that I fear that this baby will just bring more responsibility to me. That it's just one more thing that I'll have to ASK him to help me with. I can't do it all!<BR/><BR/>On second thought, gimme something, dammit. A shot of Jack with a beer chaser.KandiBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04687363853884037484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-77893289148660847102008-11-13T13:40:00.000-05:002008-11-13T13:40:00.000-05:00Ah, Luna, move over and make some room beside you....Ah, Luna, move over and make some room beside you. Feeling tender today. I'll have what she's having. I just need to get wasted.Deathstarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03925549983959400448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-82232880443670908382008-11-13T13:33:00.000-05:002008-11-13T13:33:00.000-05:00Hi Mel - It's been a long time since I've been a r...Hi Mel - It's been a long time since I've been a regular commenter here - life has been busy for me. My beautiful twins are 13.5 months old - a result of my 6th IVF cycle, and our first IVF cycle with donor eggs. The donor eggs were from my sister - the most wonderful gift.<BR/><BR/>Today for me it's a celebratory drink - that wonderful sister has just a few days ago given birth to her first child. My two babies have a new and very special cousin. <BR/><BR/>I'm grateful today that my sister gets to experience the gift of motherhood (without having to go through the hell I went through) - and hopefully understand even more what a wonderful gift she gave to me.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11168704988026789910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-61558597664376047192008-11-13T12:45:00.000-05:002008-11-13T12:45:00.000-05:00I've been trying to lay off the red stuff lately, ...I've been trying to lay off the red stuff lately, calories and all...however in light of your recent meeting and the emotional fallout - or implosion as it were, I will raise a glass of Merlot to you, for bravery.<BR/><BR/>(oh- what the hell, I'll have two. The other is for K. - due in a week and all!)Carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08878937591945134056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-65128810068338239882008-11-13T12:44:00.000-05:002008-11-13T12:44:00.000-05:00I don't care if it is raining, I wanna sit outside...I don't care if it is raining, I wanna sit outside and drink a marguerita on the rocks with salt, please.<BR/><BR/>Same old issues here, started to late in starting a family. I know I lucked out having a child at all...but I can't let go of having another one and it is seriously tooooo laaaate. And, I apparently can't let go of being sad every month when my period arrives; I am stuck in IF land.<BR/><BR/>So, I'll be out sitting under an umbrella with my drink if anyone wants to join me.Pazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11429523561110549140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-44060911680987986532008-11-13T12:32:00.000-05:002008-11-13T12:32:00.000-05:00A margarita would be so good, but when will I have...A margarita would be so good, but when will I have the time?Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02480620826533766940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-70394250134103859772008-11-13T10:53:00.000-05:002008-11-13T10:53:00.000-05:00I don't usually join in, but it's been a hell of a...I don't usually join in, but it's been a hell of a week? month? year? I don't need anything alcoholic, just a big vat of chocolate, please. (It's the progestin pills, I've had PMS for 9 months.)<BR/><BR/>Let's see, we're facing surgery for the second time in 2 months for my little guy, and desperately hoping to get him in, out, and recovered before their first birthday. Oddly calm about this one - brain surgery kind of makes groin surgery seem like a cakewalk.<BR/><BR/>And yet, the persistant liver problems and the biopsy they want to do at the same time as surgery, plus the genetic tests (which insurance is not wanting to pay for), the pushing for us to let them put in a feeding tube "while he's in surgery anyway", the implications that I am a bad mother ... well, those are leaving me a bit frazzled.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-40885635645897367242008-11-13T10:40:00.000-05:002008-11-13T10:40:00.000-05:00Mel-I haven't stopped by the lushary in a while, m...Mel-<BR/>I haven't stopped by the lushary in a while, matter of fact I haven't updated my own blog in a while but I definately have something on my mind that is eating at me.<BR/><BR/>I haven't even mentioned it anywhere because I truly feel like I won the biggest lottery ever with my daughter but...and their is always a but, right..<BR/>My SIL who got pregnant and told the family the day before I was to have my IUI which actually got me pregnant with my daughter told us all that she is pregnant again. Matter of fact and you will I am sure get this but she in fact told us at break-the-fast on Yom Yippur which happens to be two years to the day they told us last time. The whole thing is something I should blog about just to get it out. But both my sister and my husband read my blog and I have put up this great front to everyone telling them that we have a plan and I can't be pregnant right now given other health issues on my plate, and also telling people that I want to enjoy my daughter while she is young, when secretly I want what my SIL has. I can barely talk about it without getting so upset.<BR/><BR/>It honestly sounds so lame when I write it out but I can't believe that my SIL and my brother have sex one time and get pregnant. I feel like I want to lay on the floor and throw a tantrum. What the hell!!!<BR/><BR/>Just pass me the bottle!! Whatever bottle is full is fine.Flmgodoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10552638885168223394noreply@blogger.com