tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post7061274317289324171..comments2023-08-15T05:02:58.115-04:00Comments on Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters: Dot Day (Children Mentioned)Lollipop Goldsteinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-3790355337307304252007-12-06T19:56:00.000-05:002007-12-06T19:56:00.000-05:00So well said. You have such an incredible way of ...So well said. You have such an incredible way of sharing of yourself through your words that I can feel it in my soul.<BR/>~CaroleThe Goddess Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14082406024088862566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-3676954966841058912007-12-06T17:48:00.000-05:002007-12-06T17:48:00.000-05:00Long time reader, first time commenter... I always...Long time reader, first time commenter... I always enjoy your blog, thanks for being a champion for us 12.5%. Well done, you have nailed the emotions of CD1. It's ugly and beautiful at the same time. Here's wishing you another Dot Day very soon.Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10964875388384777306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-45240157270779807702007-12-06T10:55:00.000-05:002007-12-06T10:55:00.000-05:00So true. This is a great post.So true. This is a great post.In and Out of Luckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11211825510910211158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-19313658162394040612007-12-06T10:18:00.000-05:002007-12-06T10:18:00.000-05:00wonderful post. I saved it in my bloglines so that...wonderful post. I saved it in my bloglines so that i could read it fresh this morning. You have so touched on something that I think SO many of us do- that CD1 emotional moment.<BR/><BR/>Trying cycles or not, I am ALWAYS emotional on a dot day. It is oddly comforting to see that I am not the only one.<BR/><BR/>xoDresdenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09175020945060706220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-36951919990292112722007-12-06T09:55:00.000-05:002007-12-06T09:55:00.000-05:00How important CD1 has become to me. Especially whe...How important CD1 has become to me. Especially when I am waiting sooo long for it. On CD1 my dreams can begin again.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02231259676092102146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-20085735093637549392007-12-06T09:29:00.000-05:002007-12-06T09:29:00.000-05:00Well, my only pregnancy was conceived without fert...Well, my only pregnancy was conceived without fertility treatment & was a total shock (after 2.5 years of ttc with no success)(the fertility treatments came later, as we tried to get pg again). I kept going back to that CD1 (Feb. 8th) & wishing I could remember more about it. It's still a date that's ingrained in my memory & I am actually kind of dreading it this year, as it will be 10 years, & will sort of be the kickoff to the anniversary "countdown" to Aug. 7, the day our daughter was stillborn. <BR/><BR/>I still keep track of my cycles -- not that I am expecting anything to happen at this stage, but because I like knowing roughly when AF is going to make an appearance.loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-75962265473219636092007-12-06T08:54:00.000-05:002007-12-06T08:54:00.000-05:00Such a wonderful post...Although the one thing tha...Such a wonderful post...<BR/><BR/>Although the one thing that strikes me still sometimes are those Dot Days of the babies conceived but lost along the way... Those Dot Days bring sadness and rage for other reasons: Knowing the end was that of a life ended way to quickly. Well before his/her time. Never given the chance to see the beauty of living outside the womb. The constant reminder of my body's incapability at the time to nurture the life to term.<BR/><BR/>It is very interesting now being on both sides of this coin: Needing medical intervention for my DS and m/c #2 and #3...yet, finally being able to experience the naive, natural conception I had long longed for. The Dot Day for this baby - August 23rd - will never be forgotten. It will always be a reminder for me, especially after this pregnancy comes to a close with a happy ending, that my body finally got it right on ALL counts. It will be the reminder of the day that my most heartfelt wish finally came true: To conceive on my own, and for this baby to finally make it. It will be forever a day I will always be thankful for. It is a gift day, parallel to the Dot Day of Chris, the day I met my DH, and the day I married him.Tina / Anxious Changerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05455878557333244801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-48114242048601537942007-12-06T03:17:00.000-05:002007-12-06T03:17:00.000-05:00Outstanding post. You summed up CD1 better than I ...Outstanding post. You summed up CD1 better than I could ever have imagined. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-66815858019340708902007-12-06T00:38:00.000-05:002007-12-06T00:38:00.000-05:00I agree with Jess, that I'm not sure I would chang...I agree with Jess, that I'm not sure I would change it. Sure, I would have in the beginning, but now that we have been through it I would have it no other way. It truly is wonderful to have this to share with your children, how very much they were wanted. Personally, my Mom jokes to this day about how I was born with her birth control pills in my hand. Funny? Yes. A little bit sad? Also yes. It causes some self-esteem issues growing up knowing you were a mistake. Our children will never have that. They were the complete opposite of mistakes!<BR/><BR/>I, too, love all the great terms you come up with and the reasons you celebrate things like Dot Day. Your children, at such a young age, already know just how loved and wanted they are. It's wonderful!PCOSMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11614791584850988099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-34431415862392398702007-12-05T23:20:00.000-05:002007-12-05T23:20:00.000-05:00CD1, yes. It's so cool that you celebrate it...th...CD1, yes. It's so cool that you celebrate it...the hope that you had, the meaningfullness behind it. :)<BR/><BR/>Although...I'm not sure that I WOULD trade surprise/accidental pregnancy for IVF. Sure, I wish that I hadn't had to pour tons of money into having what should come easily and free...but there's also something beautifully special in knowing you were tried for SO hard from a child's view...that you were NO surprise, no accident, that you were so achingly waited for and wanted that your parents would do next to anything to bring you into the world.<BR/><BR/>I know, because I'm that kid. Not an IVF baby, because we're talking a long time ago in the middle of nowhere Ohio, but I'm the kid who's parents waited 11 years and had surgery to get me here. The wanted one. And I was ALWAYS proud to say it, I remember claiming it in elementary school even. And I'm proud to be able to have children who can claim wanted-ness unquestionably, too. Adoption and IVF...both are pretty deliberate. :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05181924375187173030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-47293391847068456612007-12-05T21:59:00.000-05:002007-12-05T21:59:00.000-05:00"what I wish non-infertile people could understand..."what I wish non-infertile people could understand, the emotions of CD1. And what it means. The largeness of it. That eternal mixing of sadness and hope. It is always an end day. It's always a beginning day" - this is the line that grabbed me. It's so so true, the largeness, the beginning, and the end - all in one freakin day. A day that happens again and again.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02519495904693373900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-16977912333267349572007-12-05T21:55:00.000-05:002007-12-05T21:55:00.000-05:00Even when we snuck in without invasive treatments,...Even when we snuck in without invasive treatments, I always knew the Dot Day. Because if you are infertile, you know. <BR/>We are getting closer to our first big guns medicated dot day. Kinda imposing.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-51047213568155376682007-12-05T20:53:00.000-05:002007-12-05T20:53:00.000-05:00"What if there is never another Dot Day? What if t..."What if there is never another Dot Day? What if there is a Knowing Day, but the Dot Day belongs to another woman?"<BR/><BR/>Thanks for including this thought.<BR/><BR/>A great post, Mel.<BR/><BR/>Hope you get an earlier dinner tonight :).Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-61558056763022849712007-12-05T20:22:00.000-05:002007-12-05T20:22:00.000-05:00you make me crymy heart is just aching right now f...you make me cry<BR/>my heart is just aching right now for you, reading this, in tears, because I know all too well the familiar feelings you are feeling.........in different ways, because I will never experience the road map of dots across my own tummy again..........but I'm sending you wishes and hugs that this Dot Day brings you so much joy...........happy Dot Day to you!Soupyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01471265907902423021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-79724360354217639712007-12-05T20:12:00.000-05:002007-12-05T20:12:00.000-05:00"It is its own pulse. Its own life. I am forever l..."It is its own pulse. Its own life. I am forever looking up dates--"<BR/><BR/>It moves us forward whether we want to move forward or not. I'm dreading my dot day, this is the last treatment cycle I'll be doing for a while. Do I dare dream that this is the one?Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17786525217385383129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-28725369468536818922007-12-05T19:21:00.000-05:002007-12-05T19:21:00.000-05:00Ah, yes...I so get what you mean. Again, you've c...Ah, yes...I so get what you mean. Again, you've captured so beautifully in words what so many of us hold in our hearts. It is my fear that I will never have a Dot Day...but many many dot days. It's such a vortex of emotions, and yet I still try to remind myself on the bleakest of dot days that my Dot Day may still be on the horizon...and try to hope that it will be soon. Best wishes to you, DH and your gorgeous babes on this very special Dot Day! <BR/>(And sending out very special thoughts that your NEXT Dot Day will come soon as well!)Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18028385789654418050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-64834011429715761182007-12-05T19:00:00.000-05:002007-12-05T19:00:00.000-05:00I'm sorry it's so scary. I wish there were some o...I'm sorry it's so scary. I wish there were some other way. Hugs for you.<BR/><BR/>On a lighter note, how are the carols and candy?SarahSewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16942500174012557069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-26135937812650760312007-12-05T18:49:00.000-05:002007-12-05T18:49:00.000-05:00I really liked how you described CD1 as both an en...I really liked how you described CD1 as both an end day and a beginning day. So well put and so true.HereWeGoAJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17457680345376171720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-50260742900875115802007-12-05T18:33:00.000-05:002007-12-05T18:33:00.000-05:00Yes, CD1 is emotionally complex. Hopeful because o...Yes, CD1 is emotionally complex. Hopeful because of the fresh opportunity and yet dispar provoking because of the reminder of what was not.<BR/><BR/>JGeohdehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09084396088622931768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-84002734473167406802007-12-05T18:24:00.000-05:002007-12-05T18:24:00.000-05:00"a strange mix of wishes and knowledge and anxiety..."a strange mix of wishes and knowledge and anxiety and fear. It is frustration and denial and rage. It is turning over large sums of money for a chance." - so true. <BR/>CD1's always bring a mix of emotions, and always when I have my most hope.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14836457802063761425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-76095066499132334512007-12-05T17:48:00.000-05:002007-12-05T17:48:00.000-05:00That's a beautiful post, and so true.That's a beautiful post, and so true.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02799401502134619497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-54562260843894094402007-12-05T17:45:00.000-05:002007-12-05T17:45:00.000-05:00Great post. So much is happening physically and me...Great post. So much is happening physically and mentally how can CD1 just go past without so much thought ?ColourYourWorldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01869194928164916281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-43489386309642914232007-12-05T17:25:00.000-05:002007-12-05T17:25:00.000-05:00Dot Day. I just love the terms you come up with. S...Dot Day. I just love the terms you come up with. So happy Dot Day to you all! <BR/><BR/><BR/>"Having this day to celebrate is lovely, but knowing so much makes the inability to attain it that much more bitter." This is the sentance I read and knew too much what exactly you meant. It's that sentance which I am having SO much trouble with right now.nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04479202205264710056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-22870538849577000272007-12-05T16:51:00.000-05:002007-12-05T16:51:00.000-05:00Great post. I've thought about and mourned in the ...Great post. I've thought about and mourned in the past that I will never get to experience the "surprise pregnancy". That moment when you realize that something has changed and your surprised by it. I spend the 2 weeks leading up to the test going back and forth between thinking positively and negatively and making myself nuts. And then there is the money. Thanks so much for always saying exactly what I'm thinking. And happy dot day to you and your family.battynursehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02240029154165501340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-14138076174074205622007-12-05T15:40:00.000-05:002007-12-05T15:40:00.000-05:00"a strange mix of wishes and knowledge and anxiety..."a strange mix of wishes and knowledge and anxiety and fear. It is frustration and denial and rage. It is turning over large sums of money for a chance." <BR/><BR/>That's where I'm at now. And it won't be my dot day. I don't even know if they'll tell me what HER dot day is...Will I know anything beyond a fertilization report? It feels very weird to me that my husband will be going in the day of egg retrieval - the very day our egg donor will be there - but I will be at home. <BR/><BR/>Very thought provoking post. I wish I was ignorant and could go back to thinking of simple things, though.Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02248665952867223815noreply@blogger.com