tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post657539236259000628..comments2023-08-15T05:02:58.115-04:00Comments on Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters: Impossible ProgesteroneLollipop Goldsteinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-83691437965744921422007-08-19T19:38:00.000-04:002007-08-19T19:38:00.000-04:00Well, I hope the test results are confirmed "good"...Well, I hope the test results are confirmed "good" for what that's worth. And here's hoping you don't have to go in November.<BR/><BR/>BeaBeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11877513815828460269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-90715672201032977192007-08-14T15:45:00.000-04:002007-08-14T15:45:00.000-04:00i'm a bit mad at your OB right now. i'm sorry, Mel...i'm a bit mad at your OB right now. i'm sorry, Mel. <BR/>i'm glad you went ahead and made the call to your RE.meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13867137276917406552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-78505997445138638882007-08-14T13:56:00.000-04:002007-08-14T13:56:00.000-04:00I have been a lurker for a while now. I love read...I have been a lurker for a while now. I love reading your blog - get so much out of it. I am struggling with secondary IF too and sometimes I also feel greedy. I was blessed to have my DS but I feel like I have so much more love to share and my DS really wants a sibling and I'd love to be able to give that to him.<BR/><BR/>I just wanted to say thanks for sharing.KLTTXhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05544587523337949648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-53287914899841561602007-08-14T12:37:00.000-04:002007-08-14T12:37:00.000-04:00i can so totally relate to two themes in your post...i can so totally relate to two themes in your post, the "no vacation" from infertility, and the meandering. Your post prompts me to ask myself what fuels my own meandering, what hidden hopes and fears? Because there's both.E. Phantzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05812948199658356521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-85334570926013307222007-08-14T10:41:00.000-04:002007-08-14T10:41:00.000-04:00Greedy? Selfish? I think not. You know what you ...Greedy? Selfish? I think not. You know what you may have to go through emotionally, physically, and financially to have a third child and still wanting to is anything but greedy. And you want it for the right reasons. You mentioned the twins having a younger sibling and growing your family - not shabby reasons at all. <BR/><BR/>And you're right you can't force IF out of your mind for a day let alone a week. Sorry about the bloodwork. That sucks!Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10271156228029984462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-82805445607523795442007-08-14T09:41:00.000-04:002007-08-14T09:41:00.000-04:00"Hurry up and wait" seems to be the infertility sl..."Hurry up and wait" seems to be the infertility slogan. It stinks. And I'm sorry you have to know it all too well.Christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06347894813987993138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-83476389785924540472007-08-14T09:11:00.000-04:002007-08-14T09:11:00.000-04:00We've spent more than an IVF cycle's worth on vaca...We've spent more than an IVF cycle's worth on vacations -- and they have helped, even though IF was a stowaway.<BR/><BR/>I'm the older sister of twins (identical, boy-boy) and I've often said that if I had twins, I would stop right there. I love my brothers, but there was no competing with their twin bond, which intensified gender and personality differences. But having read more about twin pairs, I learned that my brothers' bond is unusually close even for identical twins, and I think fraternal, boy-girl twins would be less of an obstacle for a younger sibling.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-8213694823170061382007-08-14T08:38:00.000-04:002007-08-14T08:38:00.000-04:00The guilt will you get you whereever you go. I'm s...The guilt will you get you whereever you go. <BR/>I'm sorry to see you struggling again. <BR/>I think that we spend so much time hoping for "just one, all I want is just one" and bargaining that if only you can just have ONE healthy baby, you'll never ask for more.. well.. then you find yourself wanting more, you feel like you're breaking your end of the bargain. <BR/>I think, though, that it's not a fair bargain to make. Fertiles don't have to beg for "just one." <BR/>You shouldn't have to beg for "just one more." <BR/>Plus, now you've experienced the joys of having children.. how could you NOT want to do it some more?Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04150585209390355119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-6800545848195294972007-08-14T01:53:00.000-04:002007-08-14T01:53:00.000-04:00One of the reasons I love reading your blog so muc...One of the reasons I love reading your blog so much is that you are always able to say so perfectly exactly what I had been feeling. I too have been moving slowly and much more slowly than I would really like towards the whole RE thing and because of fear. My fear is that I will be told you are too fat, I won't help you. I had planned to make an appointment in July and here it is mid August, now I'm waiting until September and 2 cycles for my appointment. Oh, and that whole can't get your lab results is shit. Makes me so angry.battynursehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02240029154165501340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-83848602646975850482007-08-14T00:45:00.000-04:002007-08-14T00:45:00.000-04:00Even though none of IF is based on merit or anythi...Even though none of IF is based on merit or anything as beautifully simple as that, you DO deserve it. Having the twins and yearning for another certainly doesn't make you selfish or undeserving. Goodness, I ache for you. I'm so sorry things are so frustrating right now, Mel.mandolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15570528484019572953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-43599887473576738502007-08-13T23:54:00.000-04:002007-08-13T23:54:00.000-04:00I'm already struggling with what's best AFTER and ...I'm already struggling with what's best AFTER and we're only week 22 of my first pregnancy. But with a baby boy on the way and a baby girl at home, what is the answer? Is another child eventually greedy? What if it means not paying for all their college? Cars? Weddings? What if we get pregnant with twins next time? <BR/><BR/>Clusternut. It's all one big clusternut. <BR/><BR/>I lov ehow Dr's are always on vaca when you need them. During my m/c? My RE was in FL. During my last transfer and retreival? FL again.<BR/><BR/>Funny.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05181924375187173030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-6972283133457203302007-08-13T22:20:00.000-04:002007-08-13T22:20:00.000-04:00You've summed the main shit of all IF treatment: w...You've summed the main shit of all IF treatment: waiting, waiting, waiting. Don't be too hard on yourself, it's difficult to determine when to push to move forward and when it's better to hang back.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02799401502134619497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-43878307693908884942007-08-13T20:37:00.000-04:002007-08-13T20:37:00.000-04:00Unfortunately, I agree that there is no such thing...Unfortunately, I agree that there is no such thing as a vacation from IF. If there was it would be an island where there are no pg ladies, no babies, no happy children, no beaming grandparents and no stupid doctors (RE or OGYNs). Oh and no stupid relatives asking the stupid question" So when are you ...". You get my drift.<BR/><BR/>On a second note, this might be a stupid question but I don't know how to get the icon's and links for some of the sidebar items onto my blog. I would like to put a few of them on there (such as the infertility thread, the lost and found, etc.) but I don't know how. I can do a link but i wanted a click-able picture like you have. Can you tell me??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-69717897690053626582007-08-13T20:11:00.000-04:002007-08-13T20:11:00.000-04:00Yikes. Sounds like you've got a full blown war goi...Yikes. Sounds like you've got a full blown war going on in your head. Hope you're able to keep the two competing forces under control...Pamela T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11474998003921896431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-36035790809034119222007-08-13T19:51:00.000-04:002007-08-13T19:51:00.000-04:00That sucks. But if you can wait five months, a we...That sucks. But if you can wait five months, a week will fly by.<BR/><BR/>I read this wondering what my problem is and suddenly worried that my abivilance about moving on with IVF might just mean that we won't. And that terrifies me. Damn it. <BR/><BR/>I like Adrienne's line of thinking though. And while we are at it, can I blame our doc too? Our lovely, locally acclaimed IVF doc told us we could get pg on our own (and a second one agreed). Maybe that's why I don't want to go back and give him my (I mean the bank's) $15K?<BR/><BR/>You've given me lots to think about as usual.SarahSewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16942500174012557069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-80408346912334656272007-08-13T19:38:00.000-04:002007-08-13T19:38:00.000-04:00You're so right, you can't take a vacation from IF...You're so right, you can't take a vacation from IF.<BR/><BR/>No one can give you the test results? Unbelievable.Changing Expectationshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10175429623370829712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-30360471817581255732007-08-13T17:28:00.000-04:002007-08-13T17:28:00.000-04:00Can I project for a minute? You're still stuck on...Can I project for a minute? You're still stuck on what your OB told you 5 months ago - that you can do this on your own. Sprinting to the OB, getting that test out of the way, that was an admission that maybe, just maybe, you can't. So you took your time getting there. It makes complete and total sense. And I could be completely and totally wrong ;-)Adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12290007044439581358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-5181968180402548492007-08-13T17:19:00.000-04:002007-08-13T17:19:00.000-04:00Are you kidding me with the results? The doctor d...Are you kidding me with the results? The doctor didn't make a contingency plan to give you the information.<BR/><BR/>That's the most horrendous thing I can think of.<BR/><BR/>I am sitting here STUNNED. That just sucks.LJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08398924875071245573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-86678844190641644912007-08-13T17:09:00.000-04:002007-08-13T17:09:00.000-04:00I really think that is Just INSANELY CRUEL! Wait....I really think that is Just INSANELY CRUEL! Wait. As if we don't spend too much of our time waiting. Ugn, that just blows. I am sorryAwkwardMomentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11854477296635420810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-9584958678161616962007-08-13T16:51:00.000-04:002007-08-13T16:51:00.000-04:00I feel as if I'm on a forced vacation. "Nothing to...I feel as if I'm on a forced vacation. "Nothing to do now but wait," and it's making me quite the basket case. And what am I vacationing for? Another chance to fail and that's what really, truly sucks. It would be a vacation if I knew at the end of my wait, there would be an answer. <BR/><BR/>I guess for me there will be an answer and it very well may be no.<BR/><BR/>How sucky to have waited as patiently as you have and then for your doc to take that precise time to take his own vacation.DDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17864339996118337420noreply@blogger.com