tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post5222979322665537202..comments2023-08-15T05:02:58.115-04:00Comments on Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters: Resolutions (Children Mentioned and an Explanation of That)Lollipop Goldsteinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-13548447108783333902008-01-01T08:37:00.000-05:002008-01-01T08:37:00.000-05:00beautifully-put, as always. since becoming a reade...beautifully-put, as always. since becoming a reader here, i've appreciated your "children mentioned" label. it's been a nice preparation and very considerate. just one of the reasons your blog is so fabulous.<BR/><BR/>Happy New Year, and may 2008 bring more joy than pain for us all.<BR/><BR/>celeste<BR/>http://light_of_unity.livejournal.comCelestehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00184873535611737473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-57262755596033524742007-12-31T21:11:00.000-05:002007-12-31T21:11:00.000-05:00Well said. And yes - not an apology, just a warni...Well said. <BR/><BR/>And yes - not an apology, just a warning.<BR/><BR/>BeaBeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11877513815828460269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-19372054755045089472007-12-31T16:07:00.000-05:002007-12-31T16:07:00.000-05:00I have always appreciated how sensitive you are to...I have always appreciated how sensitive you are to other people--and how you remember what it was like to read gushing posts about other people's children when you were having such a hard time getting to that place yourself.Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08514262423005456861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-20194326475936917362007-12-31T15:03:00.000-05:002007-12-31T15:03:00.000-05:00what a beautiful post.--stephwhat a beautiful post.<BR/>--stephStephanie ODeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08618710485017373256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-1912156688298641912007-12-31T14:04:00.000-05:002007-12-31T14:04:00.000-05:00as usual, there is so much here to chew on... firs...as usual, there is so much here to chew on... first I love the analogy to injections, so true. how words can be handled with care but the sting may just be unavoidable. and I think the concept of mindfulness is so critical in our daily lives, both in our interactions with others and in the way we treat ourselves. yes, because we can. and of course to end the year with a note of gratitude is fitting. as shitty as life can be sometimes, there is always something I am grateful for, and finding you all in the blogosphere is certainly one of them. thanks again mel for all you do. ~lunaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-72780298775064763572007-12-31T13:11:00.000-05:002007-12-31T13:11:00.000-05:00I know that I have not always been sensitive to ot...I know that I have not always been sensitive to other people's feelings. I usually try but you are right sometimes no matter how we phrase something, the audience is just not ready to receive it. It is helpful somedays to be treated with an extra sense of gentleness. It makes sense that people can read it or not, but they have the choice in their time to accept it. I certainly will try with my blogging but also to people I meet in IRL to show a bit more sensitivity, compassion, and just plain niceness in 2008.Kathy Vhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15658449843683175580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-51874562641725893022007-12-31T12:38:00.000-05:002007-12-31T12:38:00.000-05:00Mel,What a great post. This is one I'll carry with...Mel,<BR/><BR/>What a great post. This is one I'll carry with me for a long time.<BR/>Happy New Year!Mindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16137863271039042064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-23604190840359664782007-12-31T12:30:00.000-05:002007-12-31T12:30:00.000-05:00Goodbye 2007 and all that jazz indeed!You are alwa...Goodbye 2007 and all that jazz indeed!<BR/><BR/>You are always so conscientious. It is wonderful that you are raising your children to be the same.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02799401502134619497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-47014510775433876742007-12-31T12:08:00.000-05:002007-12-31T12:08:00.000-05:00Thank you for putting "children mentioned" in your...Thank you for putting "children mentioned" in your titles. Some days I may not want to read them, some days I won't. Just like there are some days when I am in a department store and I stay on the opposite end of the baby / child clothing - I won't even look in the direction - but on days when I am feeling good and positive, I will actually walk and browse through the isles. People in situations like this don't know how they are going to feeld day to day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-18480291722989714122007-12-31T11:45:00.000-05:002007-12-31T11:45:00.000-05:00Mel Mel Mel. Just when I think you've written all...Mel Mel Mel. Just when I think you've written all of the insightful things that anyone could ever come up with, you're at it again.<BR/><BR/>Kissupmuch? Not intended, really.<BR/><BR/>I appreciate the 'children mentioned' portion too. I have a non-bio kiddo, but rarely mention her in my writing. Because my current non-fertility isn't about her. Not negatively or positively. It's just not.<BR/><BR/>My real 'take home' , though, is this: <BR/><BR/><I>"... this blog is my own thoughts and my own reactions so why should I take anyone else's feelings into account?<BR/><BR/>Because we're human and we can."</I><BR/><BR/>My own blogorific navel-gazing can take such negative turns, turns that could be hurtful to someone who would <I>love</I> to have the 'problems' I complain about.<BR/><BR/>Thanks, Mel, for the reminder that I can be sensitive. I can be mindful. And I can warn people when I'm about to be neither.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-67553554685716271522007-12-31T10:20:00.000-05:002007-12-31T10:20:00.000-05:00Brava! You are always so thoughtful, clever and i...Brava! You are always so thoughtful, clever and inspirational. I wish we could bottle up this post and send it in liquid form to a few of my family members that NEED to grasp this concept! <BR/><BR/>Thank you for being you and wishing you more happiness and much much more in 2008AwkwardMomentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11854477296635420810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-49352844217562785942007-12-31T10:06:00.000-05:002007-12-31T10:06:00.000-05:00Oy, now that my tears have stopped...Thank you for...Oy, now that my tears have stopped...<BR/><BR/>Thank you for all your words. They have helped so very much. Yuor children are lucky to have you as their mom.ms. chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02369055212101853503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-18285843741160712942007-12-31T08:17:00.000-05:002007-12-31T08:17:00.000-05:00Another brilliant post. I think we could all do wi...Another brilliant post. I think we could all do with a little more "you" attitude" in our lives (not just in infertility-related matters). So much of modern life is all about "me, me, me," all the time.loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-50309508735682023252007-12-31T03:19:00.000-05:002007-12-31T03:19:00.000-05:00Here, here! What a great resolution for 2008! We s...Here, here! What a great resolution for 2008! We should all practice more consideration of others every day.<BR/><BR/>I often read your posts and talk to my husband about the ideas you present. Thank you for that! I have learned so much from you!Staciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01471803757485977959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-64434997946754530112007-12-31T00:20:00.000-05:002007-12-31T00:20:00.000-05:00I'm so glad I read this today, and so very glad yo...I'm so glad I read this today, and so very glad you wrote it. I think you just may have written it for me!<BR/><BR/>I am (and always have been) the type of IFer who lusts after babies and children and except for a very few circumstances, want to be around them and hear about them and see them endlessly. I have been known to hate an ungrateful parent or two, but usually not the kids.<BR/><BR/>But yes, even me, once in awhile, has a hard time hearing about babies and pregnancies. <BR/><BR/>One person in particular has been truly awful to me and to a lot of women who have gone through difficult pregnancy decisions and she has just announced her pregnancy, and that she is having a lot of nausea herself.<BR/><BR/>And it's all I can do not to wish her disaster...which is terrible of me and I CAN'T do it. I.must.stop.<BR/><BR/>But damn I wish I'd never ever read she was pregnant. I have to try and be extra good and less bitter now.<BR/><BR/>I suck at that.Aureliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13691032415028867902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-20655637810131639142007-12-30T23:18:00.000-05:002007-12-30T23:18:00.000-05:00I love your blog! I just recently stumbled on your...I love your blog! I just recently stumbled on your blog while searching for IF info. I haven't been officially diagnosed with anything but reading your blog has given me the strength to pursue some answers. Thanks!! You don't know how much you have helped me.The Stark Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00633172794420308399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-35876153894898756142007-12-30T22:19:00.000-05:002007-12-30T22:19:00.000-05:00You make way too much sense.Thank you for that.You make way too much sense.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for that.Anjalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17469613639032593194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-34610886445956928532007-12-30T22:09:00.000-05:002007-12-30T22:09:00.000-05:00I like how you mother. inspirational.I like how you mother. inspirational.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-55217457664552534402007-12-30T22:04:00.000-05:002007-12-30T22:04:00.000-05:00Best wishes for an awesome 2008! I think your two-...Best wishes for an awesome 2008! I think your two-fold resolution is a very good, admirable one. <BR/><BR/>And, I think you're a teensy bit psychic. There's a pregnancy-announcement-related post that I need to write, but I don't want to write. But, I need to write it. It's been needling at my for a whole week now. Reading your thoughts on it felt like another nudge from the universe. Thanks for the nudge. =)deannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05208971949811803163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-10617875460306310022007-12-30T21:29:00.000-05:002007-12-30T21:29:00.000-05:00I agree-- sensitivity is a learned skill, and prac...I agree-- sensitivity is a learned skill, and practicing it requires mindfulness. We talk about that a lot too. <BR/>About other people being complete asshats-- I was wondering the other day what makes them that way, and a friend pointed out that they just do things mindlessly. Intellectually that makes sense to me, but I just can't fathom living like that, you know?Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-14494943938110566952007-12-30T19:18:00.000-05:002007-12-30T19:18:00.000-05:00I love this post.You are a master of the metaphor....I love this post.<BR/><BR/>You are a master of the metaphor. Words = injections. I will carry this with me into 2008.Lori Lavender Luzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15394441222262940632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-6237590250461324402007-12-30T18:30:00.000-05:002007-12-30T18:30:00.000-05:00Here here!! I agree with you whole heartedly. I ...Here here!! I agree with you whole heartedly. I like your sentence at the top of your Lost and Found Connections Abound-- "In the end the love you take is equal to the love you make." It is nice that our blogging community is sensitive to other people's feelings.astralhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17071489588665538423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-88054099550294766962007-12-30T16:59:00.000-05:002007-12-30T16:59:00.000-05:00Good word my friend.Good word my friend.Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14570018200281339937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-67904451578831410392007-12-30T16:53:00.000-05:002007-12-30T16:53:00.000-05:00What a wonderful post. I really appreciate everyt...What a wonderful post. I really appreciate everything you've said and done over the past year. Your words are encouraging and give me a chance to contemplate things. This post spoke volumes to me. I never want to be the one to hurt someone and I try very hard to think before I speak. There's a musical that I did with the children's church at my church and one of the songs was titled "tame your tongue." So true. Thank you for that reminder and may 2008 prove to be a great year for you and everyone else. Thank you.Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01484007558206947938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-27944842057113361002007-12-30T15:46:00.000-05:002007-12-30T15:46:00.000-05:00This is such a beautiful concept. It gave me loads...This is such a beautiful concept. It gave me loads to think about.Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15454167446758199344noreply@blogger.com