tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post2585218856206359388..comments2023-08-15T05:02:58.115-04:00Comments on Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters: AftermathLollipop Goldsteinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-66343181033714049532008-11-13T22:56:00.000-05:002008-11-13T22:56:00.000-05:00I'm glad it went wellish. That you got something, ...I'm glad it went wellish. That you got something, if not everything. <BR/><BR/><BR/>I'm glad I don't have to cut a bitch.Iohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00918928563224342054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-15524776989745143022008-11-13T17:01:00.000-05:002008-11-13T17:01:00.000-05:00Snatch, I'm just catching up...I'm really behind o...Snatch, I'm just catching up...I'm really behind on posts these days because of all the drama.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad the visit with your friend was good, even if you didn't get any answers. I'm glad you got closure and you are now able to see yourself more as you are--amazing, full of grace, gifted and beautiful. I'm sorry your friend ever left you to start with. But I think in the intervening years you've made many friends who value you very, very much. And I hope that helps, even a little.<BR/><BR/>xxooLindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11613907883139565991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-56266970931864884212008-11-13T15:24:00.000-05:002008-11-13T15:24:00.000-05:00I'm so glad you went, I'm so glad that the outcome...I'm so glad you went, I'm so glad that the outcome was a good one, some closure, the cry. <BR/>You really are very brave for doing it and I'm so glad that it helped close a hurt even a little.Kirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17894442143508446312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-53040229133600960292008-11-13T09:53:00.000-05:002008-11-13T09:53:00.000-05:00I am so pleased for you that you got what you need...I am so pleased for you that you got what you needed from your encounter with your friend. I now imagine you to be a much more mentally healthy person than me, because I would have gone ballistic if someone had told me that their reason for randomly and viciously slicing me out of their lives was none of the things I imagined, worried and fretted over for a decade, but rather some other mystery reason which will never be revealed! I already feel my head pounding just thinking about that kind of scenario with my old friend. <BR/><BR/>Of course, that is probably why your friend agreed to see you and why I am still not talking to mine. You rock, m'dear.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08056463808792013011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-71587628378678142722008-11-13T09:50:00.000-05:002008-11-13T09:50:00.000-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08056463808792013011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-75157195834161887342008-11-13T00:55:00.000-05:002008-11-13T00:55:00.000-05:00Beautifully written. I have an ex-best friend out...Beautifully written. I have an ex-best friend out there too. It is so sad and strange to be so close and then so far from someone. Thanks for your post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-1097695377176539612008-11-12T19:35:00.000-05:002008-11-12T19:35:00.000-05:00Hugs to you. Sounds like you got what you needed,...Hugs to you. Sounds like you got what you needed, and some of what you wanted, too.Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15886919296591229688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-91465553488962401532008-11-12T19:09:00.000-05:002008-11-12T19:09:00.000-05:00I give you credit for going, because for me, if I ...I give you credit for going, because for me, if I wasn't getting an answer, I wasn't going. I know that I'm greedy that way but if I wasn't going to get an answer, for me it'd just dredge up more and I wouldn't have been able to do that. So good for you that you went and it worked.chicklethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16090701824999372199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-85199737366525647882008-11-12T17:04:00.000-05:002008-11-12T17:04:00.000-05:00How painful.I'm sad that you didn't get answers, t...How painful.<BR/><BR/>I'm sad that you didn't get answers, though it sounds like somehow you got closure ... so I guess I won't push for answers just b/c *I'm* curious.<BR/><BR/>Well done ...Polly Gamwichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09338430066217324064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-83923517997645437182008-11-12T16:35:00.000-05:002008-11-12T16:35:00.000-05:00(It seems from here) that the closure you gained w...(It seems from here) that the closure you gained was worth the risk you took in meeting.<BR/><BR/>You are brave. <BR/><BR/>But, I, we, already knew that about you.<BR/><BR/>;-)beaglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17627886826215379414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-17660298587438033402008-11-12T15:10:00.000-05:002008-11-12T15:10:00.000-05:00You did it! I'm very proud of you for going!! I d...You did it! I'm very proud of you for going!! I do think it is odd that she followed your story for all these years and knew of and read your blog, but she ended your friendship. I would like to have had an answer. That's just me. You are a beautiful person and as long as you are happy (and true to yourself) with who you are--you will be just fine!!astralhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17071489588665538423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-13347026934907409922008-11-12T14:27:00.001-05:002008-11-12T14:27:00.001-05:00I'm just catching up now. (Bad Serenity.)It is sor...I'm just catching up now. (Bad Serenity.)<BR/><BR/>It is sort of amazing how the wounds from the past never fully heal when you have no closure. It happened to me - a very close friend broke off our friendship in early high school, and to this day, I remember exactly when it happened and how hurt I was (I still am, actually). <BR/><BR/>I went the opposite way, though - she tried to contact me through myspace or something. I just can't talk to her. I have nothing to say. Nothing to gain from it, other than hurt.<BR/><BR/>Anyway. This is a long way of saying that I think you were courageous to meet up with her. And I'm very very glad that you feel more of a sense of closure now. <BR/><BR/>You rock, you know that, lady? :)<BR/><BR/>xxxSerenityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17765237663006604157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-25057089444297814442008-11-12T14:27:00.000-05:002008-11-12T14:27:00.000-05:00I'm glad that the meeting went well and that you h...I'm glad that the meeting went well and that you have some clarity now. ((HUGS))RBandRChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06018306370247688896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-86660450272392320702008-11-12T14:08:00.000-05:002008-11-12T14:08:00.000-05:00You have a lot of courage to go meet a friend whom...You have a lot of courage to go meet a friend whom you haven't seen in 14 years, especially someone who ended the relationship so mysteriously. I don't know if I could be satisfied with not really knowing, but on the other hand, 14 years later, it probably really doesn't matter in the same way.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02799401502134619497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-4104861177680730722008-11-12T13:11:00.000-05:002008-11-12T13:11:00.000-05:00Good for you, for going, for embracing the lack of...Good for you, for going, for embracing the lack of clarity, but most of all- for achieving the closure you were looking for.<BR/><BR/>((hugs))Carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08878937591945134056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-39334148782120728142008-11-12T12:12:00.000-05:002008-11-12T12:12:00.000-05:00I think most of us women have some semblance that ...I think most of us women have some semblance that a relationship with a spouse is not always as set in stone as a relationship with a female friend we've known since childhood. Divorces happen every day, but we don't often divorce our best friends. That's what makes it so hard.MrsSpockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10792687516201324640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-45847771505248270682008-11-12T12:09:00.000-05:002008-11-12T12:09:00.000-05:00I'm happy that it went well and you're getting som...I'm happy that it went well and you're getting some closure.<BR/><BR/>Will you be friends again? Or is it over?<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry you didn't get an answer. I agree with Nancy, it deserves an answer.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05181924375187173030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-13365925890981757692008-11-12T11:47:00.000-05:002008-11-12T11:47:00.000-05:00Wow. Way to put it out there. I am glad you got ...Wow. Way to put it out there. I am glad you got what you needed.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16245583469773767262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-85243989104904633322008-11-12T11:39:00.000-05:002008-11-12T11:39:00.000-05:00I am so glad it was a good meeting. A breakup lik...I am so glad it was a good meeting. A breakup like that would be so heartbreaking.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-519092152257875642008-11-12T10:59:00.000-05:002008-11-12T10:59:00.000-05:00I am just now catching up on both posts, but WOW! ...I am just now catching up on both posts, but WOW! Talk about rocking your world!<BR/><BR/>I think we have all been there to some degree. My breakup only lasted 2 years and we were able to pick right back up where we left off and have never been closer.<BR/><BR/>I know it is not that way for most though...<BR/><BR/>Sending you big huge hugs today!!! It's a lot to process.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08740939355597069712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-17363032341887695432008-11-12T10:58:00.000-05:002008-11-12T10:58:00.000-05:00I can relate to both of your posts on so many leve...I can relate to both of your posts on so many levels...<BR/><BR/>It is hard to lose a friend. It is difficult to endure things that you thought they would be with you for. And it's difficult to blog openly, knowing that there are people out there who read your blog but you know nothing about them -- including if they are a reader. <BR/><BR/>Thank you for being you. For putting this story out there and being willing to blog as openly as you do. You touch many lives, including the life of your friend.Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01418041735007521091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-602672571553085872008-11-12T10:47:00.000-05:002008-11-12T10:47:00.000-05:00Sometimes not getting your answer is your answer--...Sometimes not getting your answer is your answer-- if that makes any sense. <BR/><BR/>I hope that Josh and the twins were able to give you the safe place you needed after being so vulnerable. ~Hugs to you~Grad3https://www.blogger.com/profile/01507004280070094471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-27337214760307805132008-11-12T10:40:00.000-05:002008-11-12T10:40:00.000-05:00I've been reading both posts. I've broken up with...I've been reading both posts. I've broken up with friends and been broken up with. It sucks on both ends. <BR/><BR/>I'm glad there was closure. I'm glad she was cheering you on.Journeywomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09654778922160201892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-15715215301218751362008-11-12T10:32:00.000-05:002008-11-12T10:32:00.000-05:00I'm so glad it was worth it. This post brought me ...I'm so glad it was worth it. This post brought me to tearsSomewhat Ordinaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09701338805685025735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-46241183041996741262008-11-12T10:00:00.000-05:002008-11-12T10:00:00.000-05:00That must have been emotional, I can't even imagin...That must have been emotional, I can't even imagine. Thank you for sharing.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09708675281321049193noreply@blogger.com