tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post2584796303148156100..comments2023-08-15T05:02:58.115-04:00Comments on Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters: Separation, Part Two (Children Mentioned)Lollipop Goldsteinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-44214913079385554012007-09-17T17:25:00.000-04:002007-09-17T17:25:00.000-04:00There is so much to think about in these two posts...There is so much to think about in these two posts.beaglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17627886826215379414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-14493232990136309252007-09-12T11:22:00.000-04:002007-09-12T11:22:00.000-04:00I like so much of this, but the part about how pro...I like so much of this, but the part about how proud you are when your kids do things on your own reminded me that's what I want. Sometimes I forget and wonder if I even want kids, that maybe I'm lost in this land of trying and not being able to stop. Thx.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02519495904693373900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-14754450850523537842007-09-12T10:42:00.000-04:002007-09-12T10:42:00.000-04:00This is interesting because I was just thinking ab...This is interesting because I was just thinking about how I will be when it comes to seperation and my little one yesterday. My best friend's 2 year old started Montessori on Monday and her nephew started last week. Her nephew has cried every day when his parents left, but my best friend's little girl has bee nperfectly content. I asked her if it made her sad that her little girl just ran off to play. She said, "Actually it made me very happy. I want her to be independent and this just showed me that we've done a good job of teaching her to embrace the outside world." I was amazed by her strength. I wonder if I will be able to be so level headed about my own child's growing up.<BR/><BR/>I'd like to think that biology doesn't matter when it comes to bonding. This morning when my husband laid his head on my belly and kissed our baby good bye it didn't matter to him that the life was created through the help of a donor. I don't think he would be any different if the child shared his DNA and hopefully that bond of love will go both ways!Somewhat Ordinaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09701338805685025735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-66713449945644484672007-09-11T23:30:00.000-04:002007-09-11T23:30:00.000-04:00This is a heartwrenching post, so I'm a little ash...This is a heartwrenching post, so I'm a little ashamed to fall back on someone else's words here. Cake again: <A HREF="http://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/cake/letmego.html" REL="nofollow">Let Me Go</A>. Works best if you know the song, of course.<BR/><BR/>BeaBeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11877513815828460269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-40688369548115566022007-09-11T22:28:00.000-04:002007-09-11T22:28:00.000-04:00Great thoughtful post!Great thoughtful post!Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14570018200281339937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-86595195493269038942007-09-11T18:58:00.000-04:002007-09-11T18:58:00.000-04:00Mel - what a great post. This is something I think...Mel - what a great post. This is something I think about a lot. I can't tell you how many poems I've written on the topic of seperation! <BR/><BR/>I sometimes think we have children just for the purpose of giving them away to the world.<BR/><BR/>It's not nice, but it's the natural order.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-29888163633270996562007-09-11T18:26:00.000-04:002007-09-11T18:26:00.000-04:00Wow, this post made me cry. My little guy is only...Wow, this post made me cry. My little guy is only three months old and I want so badly not to be an overprotective parent, to encourage him to be independant and courageous and polite.... But my god, why do these things mean he will inevitably be less "mine".Kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16771351540802344987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-30950108301746868202007-09-11T15:49:00.000-04:002007-09-11T15:49:00.000-04:00Wow.... Just wow. I have just never really come to...Wow.... Just wow. I have just never really come to grips with the idea of separation...especially from Chris, as he started school yesterday and speech therapy today...<BR/><BR/>Wow...now you've got my mind going.Tina / Anxious Changerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05455878557333244801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-47056968744595666722007-09-11T15:42:00.000-04:002007-09-11T15:42:00.000-04:00This post is so horribly true. I think of these s...This post is so horribly true. I think of these same things often, but only fleetingly...my heart can't take dwelling on them too much. <BR/><BR/>Just yesterday we packed up his baby bottles for good. In an instant that phase is over and done with. I realize now that there will always be a phase ending at any given time. It's thrilling and depressing all at the same time. But this is my purpose - to raise a man who will be someone, to himself and to others.Yeah Sohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03989848317356232631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-6101381432121214492007-09-11T14:30:00.000-04:002007-09-11T14:30:00.000-04:00If you asked my husband, his words might be "WIFE"...If you asked my husband, his words might be "WIFE" and "STRIFE"...just sayin.BigP's Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07124157582246972372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-22481797974123849212007-09-11T13:14:00.000-04:002007-09-11T13:14:00.000-04:00I can relate, even though Ava is just 4 months!!Re...I can relate, even though Ava is just 4 months!!<BR/><BR/>Recently we had a discussion about sending Ava and Ethan to school and what we would do, who we would send when, and I had previously thought we'd obviously send Ava on time and Ethan late, since he is male and there's just 6 months between them. But it seemed as we talked that sending Ava early would be better. I was panicky. Sending Ava early??? And then Travis says, "Well, and to make sure she's ready, we can send her to preschool the year before." and I was like...NO WAY, she'll only be 3 1/2 and 4. NO.<BR/><BR/>Heck, I only yesterday have scootched the cosleeper away from the bed to inch ourselves into putting her in the crib in our room and then into the other room in the crib when baby #2 comes. Baby #2 comes in December and I have no desire to push Ava into a new bed and another room all at once with a sibling all of a sudden, so it has to be done soon...but it's SO HARD.<BR/><BR/>I've really enjoyed the last two posts. Well said. :)Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05181924375187173030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-73228245238829263532007-09-11T13:07:00.000-04:002007-09-11T13:07:00.000-04:00When I packed Lily's newborn things up, I had thes...When I packed Lily's newborn things up, I had these feelings. The thoughts of "Oh my goodness, she's going to drive a car someday" and "What will I do when she goes to college?" She's five months old! :) But, she learns every single day how to function in the world without me right next to her. She can use her own hands to grab a toy now - I don't need to give it to her. How did my mom ever survive when I moved four hours away? I have no clue.<BR/>I'm with you on the nature vs. nurture. I have to believe that my daughter will KNOW with all certainty and clarity that I am her mom. Not biologically, but in all the ways that count. I'd rather be active than passive, as well. <BR/>Your poor, poor neighbors!<BR/>This is one of my favorites of all your posts. Beautifully said!katdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04687817796634095367noreply@blogger.com