tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post115604236965533903..comments2023-08-15T05:02:58.115-04:00Comments on Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters: Two Things On My Mind (Children Mentioned)Lollipop Goldsteinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-1161914974783996212006-10-26T22:09:00.000-04:002006-10-26T22:09:00.000-04:00http://www.otispregnancy.org/pdf/tetracycline.pdfC...http://www.otispregnancy.org/pdf/tetracycline.pdf<BR/><BR/>Check out this website for info on tetracycline analogs (like doxy).<BR/><BR/>I was also prescribed doxy for my HSG. Doesn't look like there is actually a problem until after 4 months of gestation.Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05053521602682008237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-1156167269072414452006-08-21T09:34:00.000-04:002006-08-21T09:34:00.000-04:00Thinking about it I realize my DH and I have taken...Thinking about it I realize my DH and I have taken turns with who takes the lead. I was pages ahead at first, then when it came to discussing donor eggs he jumped a whole chapter ahead when I was still ready to do IVF with my eggs again. (The whole realization that you are giving up your biological claim to a child is a difficult place to be, especially when your DH will still have that connection.)But I caught up and was again a few pages ahead of him. Then this past Father's Day something happened where he looked at me with almost tears in his eyes and said "No matter what it takes we WILL be parents." I can not explain the joy of knowing we were (and remain) on the same page, word and letter finally!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-1156115009128417052006-08-20T19:03:00.000-04:002006-08-20T19:03:00.000-04:00I'm not sure that DH and I will ever be on exactly...I'm not sure that DH and I will ever be on exactly the same page with ART. He always wants to wait awhile longer, try another test, or "give it time" before moving forward after something doesn't work. <BR/><BR/>I do remember one time when we both agreed on the next step without even thinking about it. It was right after my HSG, when my asshole former RE told us that statistically, we had a 2-3% chance to get pregnant on our own every cycle. Those are sobering numbers to even the most optimistic spouse, and right then we decided to do IUI after we'd moved to our new town. Before it had always been a struggle to get DH to agree to any ART.<BR/><BR/>The bottom line for us has always been that it's my body, and I get to make the final decision about when we stop. I wish that we didn't disagree about when we'll reach that point, though.Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07444959671753387135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-1156111739275727392006-08-20T18:08:00.000-04:002006-08-20T18:08:00.000-04:00It took us 2 years to arrive at the same page when...It took us 2 years to arrive at the same page when it comes to how my husband and I consider our infertility. I was always running a few pages or chapters ahead. It took more than 1 year of waiting for his post-varicocelectomy improvement and 3 failed IUIs for him to arrive at the point where he feels angry and bitter and is referring to us as "infertile." <BR/><BR/>Now I'd say that we're on the same page, but I'm still a paragraph or so ahead in terms of researching our other options and my impatience.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-1156093692729206372006-08-20T13:08:00.000-04:002006-08-20T13:08:00.000-04:00I know that when Mel and I began going through IF ...I know that when Mel and I began going through IF I was always a couple of pages behind her -- not because I was unwilling to try anything to get pregnant, but because I was resistant to the label of "infertile." I had too much cultural baggage to readily admit that we were an infertile couple. It took an accumulation (Mel would probably say an over-accumulation) of evidence before I would reluctantly accede to that label. Usually, my resistance to seeking more advance treatment was more a resistance to the infertile label than the treatment itself. Even after we began treatments I kept referring to us as having IF issues rather than saying "we're infertile." It probably took until our second round of injectible drugs before I was truly able to say that I was on the same page as my spouse -- but that didn't mean that I didn't share the same goal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-1156052857211545132006-08-20T01:47:00.000-04:002006-08-20T01:47:00.000-04:00Surfer and I have not been on the same page. I co...Surfer and I have not been on the same page. I contemplated doing ART alone until I realized that I wanted my children to be raised by a man who was their biological father, if I could help it. <BR/><BR/>We are attempting to get on the same page by putting the IVF on hold, doing some therapy, giving it time, and will hopefully be on back on track by next Spring. <BR/><BR/>It is also funny that you bring this up now because the Sex in the City rerun last night was about one of the characters and her husband not being on the same page about IVF. Of course she was rushing it.Mayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00727987440275720615noreply@blogger.com