tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post115229344003026126..comments2023-08-15T05:02:58.115-04:00Comments on Stirrup Queens and Sperm Palace Jesters: The Story Behind the BookLollipop Goldsteinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-1153157521927415872006-07-17T13:32:00.000-04:002006-07-17T13:32:00.000-04:00Ruta--I totally agree with the idea of fundraising...Ruta--<BR/><BR/>I totally agree with the idea of fundraising--setting up a lemonade stand, sending out emails to all your friends begging for money, holding a run...EXCEPT...<BR/><BR/>(see there had to be a big except)<BR/><BR/>That people do this all the time for personal help (as opposed to raising money for a cause). I have been asked to participate in contributing to a scholarship fund to support two kids who lost their father during 9/11. Or help with someone's medical bills by participating in a walk that a friend set up in their honour. And I'm not bothered by these things at all. If I can help, I help. There is no harm in asking. And adoption is expensive. Is it "necessary" like medical bills? No, not really if you make me be rational. But is it "necessary" when we're talking about emotions? I don't know. I truly feel like I couldn't live if I couldn't be a mother. Is that dramatic? Certainly. But it is how I feel. <BR/><BR/>And my second "except" is that their approach is more in-line with a registry or wish list. They wish for adoption funding. They're just putting that out there as the perfect gift to give them for their child. I have a wish list of books up on my personal web site. It's out there for two reasons: if you're looking to get me a book, these are the ones I want and for people to see what I'm planning on reading next.<BR/><BR/>And we do fundraise for a wedding. If you had a guest who didn't give you a gift, wouldn't you comment? Even if your "gift" is a donation to the charity of your choice? <BR/><BR/>Now the real question is what book are you going to get me from my wish list and how much are you going to give for adoption. Better take out the checkbook :-)<BR/><BR/>What are your thoughts on this?<BR/><BR/>MelLollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30259745.post-1153102076426436722006-07-16T22:07:00.000-04:002006-07-16T22:07:00.000-04:00I've loved this blog so far and have found myself ...I've loved this blog so far and have found myself nodding my head in agreement most of the time. But this post ... I keep coming back to it, trying to find the right words to explain why I disagree with it.<BR/><BR/>Amy's comments about not being able to afford to adopt are most definately off the deep end. But at the same time, fundraising to finance an adoption is one of those things that sets my teeth on edge. Most definately, adoption is expensive. I know that first-hand. But at the same time, we frown on fundraising for a wedding, for a child's tuition expenses, for a vacation. How is an adoption any different? Although I roundly disagree with Amy's reaction, I can *almost* understand where it came from.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com